This boy of mine

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So I'm not really sure how long its even been since I have written a little update on Theo, but now seems like the right time.

I've been away once again with the start of the holidays and having my boy at home with me has left me with little time to sit and blog, or even to formulate the thoughts I have enough into sentences.

It just feels like it's all too much, Theo finishing nursery, getting ready for 'big school' and the news of the new baby. I'm trying to stay present and in the moment and drink in all this time before it changes for good. Starting this journey of pregnancy once more has made me look back on the time when this here blog was started, a place for me to write all my wonders and fears and anticipate the arrival of this unknown child who would change our lives.

Five years later here we are about to do it all again. My blog hasn't grown dramatically over that time, it's given me some great opportunities, but its in no way paying the bills or won me awards but if I do look back at what I've captured in those five years, the growth and journey of my little family including all those ups and downs, written down and recorded for years to come, then that's something right? Perhaps that's what it is meant for, nothing more and nothing less. For me I guess what I mean is that its not about the number of hits or reach but its about that record. I'm proud of that and I'm proud of what we've achieved as a family.

Most of all I'm proud of the boy. I'm proud of the child he's become and all that has come before this point. It's by no means been easy, as I'm sure its not been for anyone, but I guess that's been part of it. I think over the past couple of years we've had a massive struggle with behaviour and social issues with Theo, and part of that has been about adjusting our expectations and dealing with how to actually parent him. It's definitely been a journey for us all, but I feel that its made us really think about our roles as parents. We've had to work incredibly hard and thankfully with the help of an excellent nursery setting and lots of communication and hard work on both sides we've finally reached the other side and I couldn't be more proud.

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When Theo finished nursery a few weeks back I was pretty emotional about it all, as to be expected. But I just can't describe the change that we have seen emerge in Theo and I feel so thankful that we found a key worker who was totally invested in bringing out and nurturing all the brilliant sides of Theo, instead of labelling him and trying to just deal with 'bad behaviour'. We worked together to try and figure out the core reasons behind the behaviour and aimed to find ways to help Theo deal with his strong emotions. It's pretty amazing to have an outsider really champion your child and be able to bring out the best in them. Just looking through his learning diary and end of year report fills me with so much pride. His key worker wrote: "Theo has made my year. He is one of those children who reminds me what an honour it is to do the job I do - his excitement, enthusiasm and mind-blowing left field thinking has been a joy to behold and has brightened each and every day." As well as observations about his abilities and personality you can tell there is pride in have being able to work with him and at the outcome of that work. He ended the report with "I wish Theo all the very best for 'big school' and hope he will be as celebrated there as he has been here. I will miss him and his wonderful comments. When Theo was at the forest in March he said "that hot chocolate made me feel warm and cosy". Well Theo you made me feel warm and cosy and you've also made me smile lots". Obviously I was a teary wreck at the end of reading it!

I know our jobs aren't over yet, and there will still be so much work, but I couldn't be prouder of where we are today. I would obviously defend and protect Theo until the end, but I have also been the first to see and admit any difficulties he may have had. I feel thankful in a way that we have been able to give him the sole attention he possibly needed to work through these things.

His reaction to the news of the baby has been sweeter than I could have ever imagined. He tells most people he meets, still with the never wavering confidence when speaking to adults, that there is a baby in his mummy's tummy. He likes to check on the baby and hopes that it isn't crying inside. He's already assumed his role of helper and informed me that he will help feed the baby when it arrives, with a spoon I might add. There have been many questions, one of which was if it was a puppy in my tummy! He knows the baby is coming in January, and that it is close to his birthday, which is apparently a great gift for him...not sure how long that feeling with last! And he constantly changes between wanting a sister and a brother. I almost feel bad that we didn't give him the gift of a sibling earlier, but I do love that he is old enough to more or less grasp what is happening and that he can have more of a role in being a brother. He has been obsessed with babies for quite a while now, and I know my heart will explode when that day eventually comes when he gets to meet his new sibling.

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So this isn't so much of an update, and to be honest it's hard to write specific points about him as everyday there is something different, funny comments and observations all of which make up this magical little boy. It's more of a gushing realisation that he's growing up, and that I'm proud of what we've achieved. I feel it needed to be done, before the baby comes along, and to mark this point in our lives before it all changes and we embark on the new adventure of school.

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This boy of mine

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So I'm not really sure how long its even been since I have written a little update on Theo, but now seems like the right time.

I've been away once again with the start of the holidays and having my boy at home with me has left me with little time to sit and blog, or even to formulate the thoughts I have enough into sentences.

It just feels like it's all too much, Theo finishing nursery, getting ready for 'big school' and the news of the new baby. I'm trying to stay present and in the moment and drink in all this time before it changes for good. Starting this journey of pregnancy once more has made me look back on the time when this here blog was started, a place for me to write all my wonders and fears and anticipate the arrival of this unknown child who would change our lives.

Five years later here we are about to do it all again. My blog hasn't grown dramatically over that time, it's given me some great opportunities, but its in no way paying the bills or won me awards but if I do look back at what I've captured in those five years, the growth and journey of my little family including all those ups and downs, written down and recorded for years to come, then that's something right? Perhaps that's what it is meant for, nothing more and nothing less. For me I guess what I mean is that its not about the number of hits or reach but its about that record. I'm proud of that and I'm proud of what we've achieved as a family.

Most of all I'm proud of the boy. I'm proud of the child he's become and all that has come before this point. It's by no means been easy, as I'm sure its not been for anyone, but I guess that's been part of it. I think over the past couple of years we've had a massive struggle with behaviour and social issues with Theo, and part of that has been about adjusting our expectations and dealing with how to actually parent him. It's definitely been a journey for us all, but I feel that its made us really think about our roles as parents. We've had to work incredibly hard and thankfully with the help of an excellent nursery setting and lots of communication and hard work on both sides we've finally reached the other side and I couldn't be more proud.

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When Theo finished nursery a few weeks back I was pretty emotional about it all, as to be expected. But I just can't describe the change that we have seen emerge in Theo and I feel so thankful that we found a key worker who was totally invested in bringing out and nurturing all the brilliant sides of Theo, instead of labelling him and trying to just deal with 'bad behaviour'. We worked together to try and figure out the core reasons behind the behaviour and aimed to find ways to help Theo deal with his strong emotions. It's pretty amazing to have an outsider really champion your child and be able to bring out the best in them. Just looking through his learning diary and end of year report fills me with so much pride. His key worker wrote: "Theo has made my year. He is one of those children who reminds me what an honour it is to do the job I do - his excitement, enthusiasm and mind-blowing left field thinking has been a joy to behold and has brightened each and every day." As well as observations about his abilities and personality you can tell there is pride in have being able to work with him and at the outcome of that work. He ended the report with "I wish Theo all the very best for 'big school' and hope he will be as celebrated there as he has been here. I will miss him and his wonderful comments. When Theo was at the forest in March he said "that hot chocolate made me feel warm and cosy". Well Theo you made me feel warm and cosy and you've also made me smile lots". Obviously I was a teary wreck at the end of reading it!

I know our jobs aren't over yet, and there will still be so much work, but I couldn't be prouder of where we are today. I would obviously defend and protect Theo until the end, but I have also been the first to see and admit any difficulties he may have had. I feel thankful in a way that we have been able to give him the sole attention he possibly needed to work through these things.

His reaction to the news of the baby has been sweeter than I could have ever imagined. He tells most people he meets, still with the never wavering confidence when speaking to adults, that there is a baby in his mummy's tummy. He likes to check on the baby and hopes that it isn't crying inside. He's already assumed his role of helper and informed me that he will help feed the baby when it arrives, with a spoon I might add. There have been many questions, one of which was if it was a puppy in my tummy! He knows the baby is coming in January, and that it is close to his birthday, which is apparently a great gift for him...not sure how long that feeling with last! And he constantly changes between wanting a sister and a brother. I almost feel bad that we didn't give him the gift of a sibling earlier, but I do love that he is old enough to more or less grasp what is happening and that he can have more of a role in being a brother. He has been obsessed with babies for quite a while now, and I know my heart will explode when that day eventually comes when he gets to meet his new sibling.

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So this isn't so much of an update, and to be honest it's hard to write specific points about him as everyday there is something different, funny comments and observations all of which make up this magical little boy. It's more of a gushing realisation that he's growing up, and that I'm proud of what we've achieved. I feel it needed to be done, before the baby comes along, and to mark this point in our lives before it all changes and we embark on the new adventure of school.

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a theo update


I've been meaning to do a little update for a long while now, and I don't want to miss recording these certain little quirks that won't stick around for long as this boy grows, learns and changes.

But I will start at the most recent. Yesterday we had an appointment with a Paediatrician to discuss certain areas of Theo's development and behaviour. Since starting at nursery there have been a few concerns raised, and especially around the way he interacts with other children. I've shared a few times about my concerns with some of his lashing out problems and we didn't really know the answers as to why. We still don't really. It's a tricky one really. As he gets older and I guess more used to being around other children without me there he does seem to be getting better, but sometimes the not so good behaviour does creep in. Theo is incredibly social, outgoing and interested in other people and children. When he meets a new child he will instantly ask "What's your name?" and tell them his and ask them questions. He wants to share his game and views with people and likes to interact, and its really lovely to watch. He can also be loud, spontaneous and sometimes slightly unpredictable, and will sometimes without real reason lash out. This may be just nudging a child who may be standing too close, or screaming in their face or direction down to full on biting. This is not so great to watch, as you can imagine.

We are constantly trying to encourage Theo to use his words, as I feel this is a major factor and may lead to his frustration. Don't get me wrong, his language and vocabulary is really good, but he will still revert to using actions first when he feels stressed, upset or cross. And sometimes it's hard to predict when he will start to feel like this. He has always been a very excitable child, and takes so much joy in tasks and new things, but this also tends to lead him to becoming overwhelmed and perhaps over stimulated. He may be feeling stressed in certain situations, and I know both Rob and I both suffer a little from feeling uncomfortable and stressed in places with lots of people or stimulus.

So what I'm trying to say is that I know deep down, or not even deep down because he shows us daily, that he is a kind, friendly and very lovely child but sometimes he finds it very hard to deal with stress or anxiety. After observing Theo during our appointment the Paediatrician assured us that she saw some really great qualities in him, and that there were no real underlying problems. Hopefully with age and experience he will be able to control his actions a little more, and be able to vocalise the way he's feeling and act on it before he lashes out. And we just need to continue helping him on his way to understanding those feelings and dealing with them, and as she put it so well, 'help him control his feelings without squashing his spirit'.

So that is where we are with that. Every day is a learning curve for us, and we may have better weeks than others, and when we're in a bad week it feels as though we've reverted or that this is the way his behaviour will always be, but it does eventually pass and looking back in hindsight you can start to pinpoint certain triggers for the behaviour.





But on to a few things that I don't want to forget!

We have hit the role-playing stage, and I love it! We play doctors most day and take it in turns to be the doctor and the patient. Theo has a little voice for when he's playing a character and I love it. He will often play doctor to his toys and make them feel better with a plaster, hot water bottle and a story. We also like to play shops and fixers (builders)

The train set seems to come out less and less these days, but when it does he likes to build tracks himself and acts out little stories he remembers, and most will involve a chase with the naughty Diesel 10 and a crash of some sort.

This boy is obsessed with water. I often find him playing with taps, doing the washing up or spraying himself and everything with the hose. He loves water parks with sprinklers and jets of water and will run squealing with delight through them. He also loves ice and will pick all the pieces from his or your drinks making sure he distributes a piece to each of us first.

We have noticed that sharing is getting a little better, and waiting for his turn on things happens more frequently. He likes to take it upon himself to share out little items such a stones or food, but still isn't really comfortable sharing toys.

We have also seen recent obsessions with superheros and rescuing, and he likes to pretend he can fly. Dinosaurs were up there too and he likes to look at pictures even though he finds them quite scary!

He has learnt to write his name and likes to point out the letter T (for Theo!) everywhere we go. He will find different objects to form the letter T and will proudly show it off to anyone who will listen.

We have hit the getting naked stage, and I will often find him with his clothes strewn across the floor lounging around on the sofa. We have a few battles getting dressed, and he's suddenly decided that he doesn't like short sleeves. Most tops are called pyjamas, as they still remain his favourite clothes to wear (and remove) but he does like to help get himself dressed too. He can put on and remove his shoes himself, but will only do so after oh about the 50,000th time you've asked.

He is obsessed with babies. Baby animals, baby humans and anything small. He constantly claims "aw its so cute" "I love it, I love baby..." and likes to give hugs to anything that he can get his arms around. The other day he made friends with an ant that had crawled on his arm, and talked about him all the way home.

Speaking of friends he likes to introduce all the people in the room to each other, as though we've never met before. He will introduce Rob's own Grandma by saying "Excuse me Daddy, this is my friend Granny" and hold his little palms up in a dramatic gesture just in case you weren't sure who he was referring to. He will tell people in the street that I am his Mummy, and will introduce his friends to other children.

He will start conversations with people in the street, if we walk by someone working in their garden it'll be "um excuse me, what are you doing", or he likes to share information or just have a little chat. If anyone comes to do any work at our house he will follow them around asking what they are doing, and  (try to!) have a little root around in their tool bag. He isn't really afraid to talk to new people, but if someone doesn't respond he will happily carry on saying "oh they can't hear me" until he finds his next willing listener.

He likes to show people what he's created and takes great pride in things he built or made or found. When reading books he likes to stop and point out all the different things he notices and ask lots of questions about the scenes. He's also getting a lot more interested in playing on his own, and especially if we are somewhere with new toys he's content to just sit, play and discover.

If he wants to go off and get something, he likes to hold up his hands "wait wait, stay right there, I'll be right back"! Rob took him out the other week, and whilst waiting in a queue Theo wandered off and when called back he informed Rob to "don't worry Daddy, I'm just going over here for a little bit, you just stay there"

And finally everything at the moment is preceded with "a little bit". Yesterday morning he wanted to go "a little bit downstairs" or he just wants a "little bit of a treat" and if you refuse his request he will say "oh but just a little bit, pweeease"

He still loves a cuddle, and apparently "cuddles make you happy Mummy". Yes, yes they do!



a theo update


I've been meaning to do a little update for a long while now, and I don't want to miss recording these certain little quirks that won't stick around for long as this boy grows, learns and changes.

But I will start at the most recent. Yesterday we had an appointment with a Paediatrician to discuss certain areas of Theo's development and behaviour. Since starting at nursery there have been a few concerns raised, and especially around the way he interacts with other children. I've shared a few times about my concerns with some of his lashing out problems and we didn't really know the answers as to why. We still don't really. It's a tricky one really. As he gets older and I guess more used to being around other children without me there he does seem to be getting better, but sometimes the not so good behaviour does creep in. Theo is incredibly social, outgoing and interested in other people and children. When he meets a new child he will instantly ask "What's your name?" and tell them his and ask them questions. He wants to share his game and views with people and likes to interact, and its really lovely to watch. He can also be loud, spontaneous and sometimes slightly unpredictable, and will sometimes without real reason lash out. This may be just nudging a child who may be standing too close, or screaming in their face or direction down to full on biting. This is not so great to watch, as you can imagine.

We are constantly trying to encourage Theo to use his words, as I feel this is a major factor and may lead to his frustration. Don't get me wrong, his language and vocabulary is really good, but he will still revert to using actions first when he feels stressed, upset or cross. And sometimes it's hard to predict when he will start to feel like this. He has always been a very excitable child, and takes so much joy in tasks and new things, but this also tends to lead him to becoming overwhelmed and perhaps over stimulated. He may be feeling stressed in certain situations, and I know both Rob and I both suffer a little from feeling uncomfortable and stressed in places with lots of people or stimulus.

So what I'm trying to say is that I know deep down, or not even deep down because he shows us daily, that he is a kind, friendly and very lovely child but sometimes he finds it very hard to deal with stress or anxiety. After observing Theo during our appointment the Paediatrician assured us that she saw some really great qualities in him, and that there were no real underlying problems. Hopefully with age and experience he will be able to control his actions a little more, and be able to vocalise the way he's feeling and act on it before he lashes out. And we just need to continue helping him on his way to understanding those feelings and dealing with them, and as she put it so well, 'help him control his feelings without squashing his spirit'.

So that is where we are with that. Every day is a learning curve for us, and we may have better weeks than others, and when we're in a bad week it feels as though we've reverted or that this is the way his behaviour will always be, but it does eventually pass and looking back in hindsight you can start to pinpoint certain triggers for the behaviour.





But on to a few things that I don't want to forget!

We have hit the role-playing stage, and I love it! We play doctors most day and take it in turns to be the doctor and the patient. Theo has a little voice for when he's playing a character and I love it. He will often play doctor to his toys and make them feel better with a plaster, hot water bottle and a story. We also like to play shops and fixers (builders)

The train set seems to come out less and less these days, but when it does he likes to build tracks himself and acts out little stories he remembers, and most will involve a chase with the naughty Diesel 10 and a crash of some sort.

This boy is obsessed with water. I often find him playing with taps, doing the washing up or spraying himself and everything with the hose. He loves water parks with sprinklers and jets of water and will run squealing with delight through them. He also loves ice and will pick all the pieces from his or your drinks making sure he distributes a piece to each of us first.

We have noticed that sharing is getting a little better, and waiting for his turn on things happens more frequently. He likes to take it upon himself to share out little items such a stones or food, but still isn't really comfortable sharing toys.

We have also seen recent obsessions with superheros and rescuing, and he likes to pretend he can fly. Dinosaurs were up there too and he likes to look at pictures even though he finds them quite scary!

He has learnt to write his name and likes to point out the letter T (for Theo!) everywhere we go. He will find different objects to form the letter T and will proudly show it off to anyone who will listen.

We have hit the getting naked stage, and I will often find him with his clothes strewn across the floor lounging around on the sofa. We have a few battles getting dressed, and he's suddenly decided that he doesn't like short sleeves. Most tops are called pyjamas, as they still remain his favourite clothes to wear (and remove) but he does like to help get himself dressed too. He can put on and remove his shoes himself, but will only do so after oh about the 50,000th time you've asked.

He is obsessed with babies. Baby animals, baby humans and anything small. He constantly claims "aw its so cute" "I love it, I love baby..." and likes to give hugs to anything that he can get his arms around. The other day he made friends with an ant that had crawled on his arm, and talked about him all the way home.

Speaking of friends he likes to introduce all the people in the room to each other, as though we've never met before. He will introduce Rob's own Grandma by saying "Excuse me Daddy, this is my friend Granny" and hold his little palms up in a dramatic gesture just in case you weren't sure who he was referring to. He will tell people in the street that I am his Mummy, and will introduce his friends to other children.

He will start conversations with people in the street, if we walk by someone working in their garden it'll be "um excuse me, what are you doing", or he likes to share information or just have a little chat. If anyone comes to do any work at our house he will follow them around asking what they are doing, and  (try to!) have a little root around in their tool bag. He isn't really afraid to talk to new people, but if someone doesn't respond he will happily carry on saying "oh they can't hear me" until he finds his next willing listener.

He likes to show people what he's created and takes great pride in things he built or made or found. When reading books he likes to stop and point out all the different things he notices and ask lots of questions about the scenes. He's also getting a lot more interested in playing on his own, and especially if we are somewhere with new toys he's content to just sit, play and discover.

If he wants to go off and get something, he likes to hold up his hands "wait wait, stay right there, I'll be right back"! Rob took him out the other week, and whilst waiting in a queue Theo wandered off and when called back he informed Rob to "don't worry Daddy, I'm just going over here for a little bit, you just stay there"

And finally everything at the moment is preceded with "a little bit". Yesterday morning he wanted to go "a little bit downstairs" or he just wants a "little bit of a treat" and if you refuse his request he will say "oh but just a little bit, pweeease"

He still loves a cuddle, and apparently "cuddles make you happy Mummy". Yes, yes they do!



a theo update


So the boy is turning three. THREE?! How in the world did that happen?

I thought it was probably about time to write a little update before the last few days of his second year are up. It's hard to believe that the boy we now spend our days with was the same one that first made his wormy appearance three years ago. He now looks at photos of himself and will knowingly point out that that is baby Theo, and that he is a little boy now.


This year has been quite a tough one I'd say, tougher than any before. I know they all say beware of the terrible twos etc and I had in my head vision of major meltdowns and tantrums in public and uncontrollable screaming for hours and luckily we seemed to escape most of those episodes.  He tries lots of different food, will eat most of what he's given in one sitting and tells us when he's had enough. He started to help with preparing and we do some cutting together, as well as mixing and stirring. When he has cereal in the morning he gets his own bowl, spoon and milk and we prepare it together, and then more recently when he's finished he knows that he has to put his plate or bowl in the kitchen. He's also a very good sleeper, going to bed around 7 - 7.30pm and then waking like clockwork most mornings at 7am. He still occasionally naps in the day but usually its only once or twice a week, and will more than likely be in the late afternoon. We're still hoping to get him a new bed, like one of these wooden high sleeper beds or a midsleeper bed with storage to make the most of the (limited) space in his room because he's such a confident sleeper! So on those aspects we're lucky.

He's also very confident with other people, adults mostly and older children. When settling him into preschool he had no problem at all about me leaving, he would give me a kiss and then leave me to go. We've never had any tears and he's more than happy to get comfort from other people. In fact he loves cuddles, he wants cuddles from anyone who will give him one! On a regular day I probably get asked at least 50 times for a cuddle. If he gets hurt, he won't really cry, all he'll say is "Mummy I hurt" and then holds out the place where it hurts for a kiss to make it feel better, and he's happy to accept comfort from other people around, unless he does really hurt himself and then it is only mummy that he wants. He seems to have a pretty high pain threshold, as if he falls over or bangs himself he doesn't really make much of a fuss, most of the time he'll just pick himself up and get back on with it, we don't have too many over dramatic crying scenes! We still sometimes have troubles with him lashing out, and have had a few cases of biting, but on the whole it does (fingers crossed) seem to be improving. I've spoken to the health visitor and had home visits on a few occasions and we have come up with new strategies to deal with some of the behaviour issues and they seem to be helping quite a lot, I'm just hoping that as he gets older he will be able to vent some of his frustrations in different ways and be able to use his words instead of his actions!


His speech has come on so well, and his words and sentences are clear to most people, and he can hold proper conversations, even though as of late his favourite answer to most questions is "umm, I don't know" or "um, because". One particular phrase he's started coming out with, and can never use correctly that is currently driving me a little up the wall  starts with him saying "Mummy, mummy, mummy, mummy...?" "yes Theo?", "um, something else". Right, thanks. Other favourite phrases at the moment include "I'm sorry Mummy I didn't mean to" (and holding out his hands as if to prove his innocence) and "aaallllright" (said in a 'oh if I have' to tone), "um Mummy I need to talk to you/tell you sompthing" and "whaaaaaat?" when you tell him something. When sharing or when asked for something he will say "of course you can" and every time I pick him up from nursery I get the biggest cuddle, and an I love you, and I miss you. It really is very sweet! He is pretty polite and will use his please and thank you's mainly unprompted.

He's as active as ever, and in fact at the moment we are working on getting him to slow down as he seems to feel the need to run around everywhere, and generally not look where he is going. We are trying to show him that we need to walk inside, and walk carefully when next to roads etc. But he's just so fast! He still loves to run away and finds it a game when you try and retrieve him, and has disappeared on a few occasions causing me mild heart attacks...

Basically he is full of a lot of energy so activities where he can run or use up most of it is good for us. But puzzles are still the main source of concentration, and he keeps on astonishing us at his skill! He's currently on 5 year old 60+ pieces puzzles and can complete them with little guidance from us. He of course loves his trains, and is getting more and more involved with building the tracks too and having a clear idea of where he wants the pieces to go. We then have to act out stories, which mainly involve one train chasing another, crashing and then rescuing them. He loves stories and has a brilliant memory for what happens and has started to 'read' his books to us telling us the story and the characters. I love to see his little imagination working hard!


He's becoming more and more independent and will now do a variety of things himself such as putting on his shoes, taking off his coat (undoing buttons and zips), putting on toothpaste and brushing his teeth, going up to the bathroom and toilet by himself and pulling up his pants and trousers, taking his plate through to the kitchen, removing all his clothes for bath time and can spread butter/jam etc onto bread or crackers.

It really does make me shocked to see my once helpless baby do all of this for himself! In fact when looking back at photos I can't even really remember the way he was, it feels so alien that he was once this tiny being asleep on my chest! I know it's been said a thousand times, but it couldn't be a truer statement that the days are long but the years are short. But please Theo don't grow up too fast!


a theo update


So the boy is turning three. THREE?! How in the world did that happen?

I thought it was probably about time to write a little update before the last few days of his second year are up. It's hard to believe that the boy we now spend our days with was the same one that first made his wormy appearance three years ago. He now looks at photos of himself and will knowingly point out that that is baby Theo, and that he is a little boy now.


This year has been quite a tough one I'd say, tougher than any before. I know they all say beware of the terrible twos etc and I had in my head vision of major meltdowns and tantrums in public and uncontrollable screaming for hours and luckily we seemed to escape most of those episodes.  He tries lots of different food, will eat most of what he's given in one sitting and tells us when he's had enough. He started to help with preparing and we do some cutting together, as well as mixing and stirring. When he has cereal in the morning he gets his own bowl, spoon and milk and we prepare it together, and then more recently when he's finished he knows that he has to put his plate or bowl in the kitchen. He's also a very good sleeper, going to bed around 7 - 7.30pm and then waking like clockwork most mornings at 7am. He still occasionally naps in the day but usually its only once or twice a week, and will more than likely be in the late afternoon. We're still hoping to get him a new bed, like one of these wooden high sleeper beds or a midsleeper bed with storage to make the most of the (limited) space in his room because he's such a confident sleeper! So on those aspects we're lucky.

He's also very confident with other people, adults mostly and older children. When settling him into preschool he had no problem at all about me leaving, he would give me a kiss and then leave me to go. We've never had any tears and he's more than happy to get comfort from other people. In fact he loves cuddles, he wants cuddles from anyone who will give him one! On a regular day I probably get asked at least 50 times for a cuddle. If he gets hurt, he won't really cry, all he'll say is "Mummy I hurt" and then holds out the place where it hurts for a kiss to make it feel better, and he's happy to accept comfort from other people around, unless he does really hurt himself and then it is only mummy that he wants. He seems to have a pretty high pain threshold, as if he falls over or bangs himself he doesn't really make much of a fuss, most of the time he'll just pick himself up and get back on with it, we don't have too many over dramatic crying scenes! We still sometimes have troubles with him lashing out, and have had a few cases of biting, but on the whole it does (fingers crossed) seem to be improving. I've spoken to the health visitor and had home visits on a few occasions and we have come up with new strategies to deal with some of the behaviour issues and they seem to be helping quite a lot, I'm just hoping that as he gets older he will be able to vent some of his frustrations in different ways and be able to use his words instead of his actions!


His speech has come on so well, and his words and sentences are clear to most people, and he can hold proper conversations, even though as of late his favourite answer to most questions is "umm, I don't know" or "um, because". One particular phrase he's started coming out with, and can never use correctly that is currently driving me a little up the wall  starts with him saying "Mummy, mummy, mummy, mummy...?" "yes Theo?", "um, something else". Right, thanks. Other favourite phrases at the moment include "I'm sorry Mummy I didn't mean to" (and holding out his hands as if to prove his innocence) and "aaallllright" (said in a 'oh if I have' to tone), "um Mummy I need to talk to you/tell you sompthing" and "whaaaaaat?" when you tell him something. When sharing or when asked for something he will say "of course you can" and every time I pick him up from nursery I get the biggest cuddle, and an I love you, and I miss you. It really is very sweet! He is pretty polite and will use his please and thank you's mainly unprompted.

He's as active as ever, and in fact at the moment we are working on getting him to slow down as he seems to feel the need to run around everywhere, and generally not look where he is going. We are trying to show him that we need to walk inside, and walk carefully when next to roads etc. But he's just so fast! He still loves to run away and finds it a game when you try and retrieve him, and has disappeared on a few occasions causing me mild heart attacks...

Basically he is full of a lot of energy so activities where he can run or use up most of it is good for us. But puzzles are still the main source of concentration, and he keeps on astonishing us at his skill! He's currently on 5 year old 60+ pieces puzzles and can complete them with little guidance from us. He of course loves his trains, and is getting more and more involved with building the tracks too and having a clear idea of where he wants the pieces to go. We then have to act out stories, which mainly involve one train chasing another, crashing and then rescuing them. He loves stories and has a brilliant memory for what happens and has started to 'read' his books to us telling us the story and the characters. I love to see his little imagination working hard!


He's becoming more and more independent and will now do a variety of things himself such as putting on his shoes, taking off his coat (undoing buttons and zips), putting on toothpaste and brushing his teeth, going up to the bathroom and toilet by himself and pulling up his pants and trousers, taking his plate through to the kitchen, removing all his clothes for bath time and can spread butter/jam etc onto bread or crackers.

It really does make me shocked to see my once helpless baby do all of this for himself! In fact when looking back at photos I can't even really remember the way he was, it feels so alien that he was once this tiny being asleep on my chest! I know it's been said a thousand times, but it couldn't be a truer statement that the days are long but the years are short. But please Theo don't grow up too fast!


conversations with theo

Recently we've been having some pretty good conversations with Theo. I really love having this little insight into his imagination and memory, and only wish I could record them all!

Just today we were driving along in the car and Theo started to say that someone was called 'O'

Me: Who's called O Theo?
Theo: The dolphin
m: The dolphin is called O? Is he your friend?
T: Yes, he's my friend
m: Where did you meet him?
T: In the water
m: In the sea over there (pointing as we were driving along the coast in Devon)
T: Yes
m: How did you get there?
T: In a boat
m: Did you row?
T: Yes
m: What did you talk about? The weather?
T: Yes Mummy, its cloudy
m: Did you talk about your favourite food? What's the dolphins favourite food?
T: Umm yes, toast
m: What does he like on his toast?
T: Chocolate
m: Is Chocolate your favourite too?
T: No Mummy, I like butter.

The other day we had a full conversation about our wedding, and even though it was quite a while ago now he was able to list all the people he remembered there, riding on the big green bus (his personal highlight) what he ate and even what was in and what colour his party bag was.

He has funny little phrases that he comes out with such as "oh thank you Mummy that's really nice" when you give him something, or "oh that's perfect!", or holding up his hands and flapping them about saying "wait wait wait" before rushing off to get something to show you. If you ask him if he wants something he'll say "umm no thank you Mummy" or "umm I don't know". He will tell you about what he has eaten and that it's in his tummy, and does an excited squeal and proclaims that "mm it's yummy!". He say's "I'm scared" and when asked what of "the monsters..." Poor thing! He likes to tell us about his emotions, "I'm cross, sad, happy". He will cross his arms and scowl saying "hmpf I'm cross" he also likes to proclaim that he thinks he's pretty funny!

He has little conversations with his friends, and I often hear him asking if they are ok if they've fallen over, or when he wants them to listen or play something with him. I can't wait for them to start having even more full on conversations and making up their own little languages together.

It really is a fascinating stage and even though some of his pronunciation isn't perfect he can repeat and remember most words and phrases, remember words to songs and make up his own full sentences. I really do love hearing what's going on in his head and he's one observant little boy, there's not much that will get past him! 

conversations with theo

Recently we've been having some pretty good conversations with Theo. I really love having this little insight into his imagination and memory, and only wish I could record them all!

Just today we were driving along in the car and Theo started to say that someone was called 'O'

Me: Who's called O Theo?
Theo: The dolphin
m: The dolphin is called O? Is he your friend?
T: Yes, he's my friend
m: Where did you meet him?
T: In the water
m: In the sea over there (pointing as we were driving along the coast in Devon)
T: Yes
m: How did you get there?
T: In a boat
m: Did you row?
T: Yes
m: What did you talk about? The weather?
T: Yes Mummy, its cloudy
m: Did you talk about your favourite food? What's the dolphins favourite food?
T: Umm yes, toast
m: What does he like on his toast?
T: Chocolate
m: Is Chocolate your favourite too?
T: No Mummy, I like butter.

The other day we had a full conversation about our wedding, and even though it was quite a while ago now he was able to list all the people he remembered there, riding on the big green bus (his personal highlight) what he ate and even what was in and what colour his party bag was.

He has funny little phrases that he comes out with such as "oh thank you Mummy that's really nice" when you give him something, or "oh that's perfect!", or holding up his hands and flapping them about saying "wait wait wait" before rushing off to get something to show you. If you ask him if he wants something he'll say "umm no thank you Mummy" or "umm I don't know". He will tell you about what he has eaten and that it's in his tummy, and does an excited squeal and proclaims that "mm it's yummy!". He say's "I'm scared" and when asked what of "the monsters..." Poor thing! He likes to tell us about his emotions, "I'm cross, sad, happy". He will cross his arms and scowl saying "hmpf I'm cross" he also likes to proclaim that he thinks he's pretty funny!

He has little conversations with his friends, and I often hear him asking if they are ok if they've fallen over, or when he wants them to listen or play something with him. I can't wait for them to start having even more full on conversations and making up their own little languages together.

It really is a fascinating stage and even though some of his pronunciation isn't perfect he can repeat and remember most words and phrases, remember words to songs and make up his own full sentences. I really do love hearing what's going on in his head and he's one observant little boy, there's not much that will get past him! 

a theo update

Last week Theo turned the grand old age of two and a half! Half way through the sometimes terrible but mostly pretty fun twos. Soon enough, when I blink he'll be three and further from that tiny worm we met that short time ago.

Currently I'm home alone with a long list of things to do and the whole day to complete them, but all I can think about is having a cuddle with Theo, to hear him calling me to come play with his trains or cars or a play in the garden. But I know when he's back I'll long for the space and time to myself, but as much as I wish to have time to myself, I miss him so and find myself walking into his room to look at the space he usually inhabits and I feel a little twinge in my heart that he isn't there. Such is the irony of being a parent, you wish for space and time alone, but once you have it all you want to do is be back with them and everything feels a little empty without your sidekick by your side.

So on with the update! Theo's speech is coming a long pretty well now, for those that don't see him for a short while comment on how much he is saying and for me I've definitely noticed a bit of an explosion recently. I'd say he's always been pretty average (whatever that is) when it comes to speech development, as he's always been pretty forward with physical development. But he constantly surprises me with his sentences and the amount of words that he knows. I don't remember teaching lots of names for things, but he has somehow gained that knowledge. A few weeks back he surprised when I asked him to get out the car "No mummy, I stay here in car". When we ask him what he did that day he will take a long pause "ummmmmmm, I go to zoo, see dinosaurs" etc. We have reached the world of "I", I get this, I do this, I want this, and my favourite "I go weeeeeeeee on toilet!" He is fully understanding what I am saying to him now, for example yesterday I lost a pen and I asked him if he had seen it to which he replied "no Mummy I don't see pen, you go upstairs find it". Hah! He likes to describe things of different sizes as big one/baby one, everything small or littler is baby sized. We have a favourite place to go and watch trains where there is apparently a baby, mummy and daddy sized train. A little while ago he started to mimic my tone of voice when telling him off, and has become quite bossy. He'll say "stop it right now" or "no mummy/daddy, you go over there" with this cross little expression on his face. He'll furrow his brow, squint his eyes and have a stern little mouth and put out his hand and yell "stop!" He knows what he wants and he won't let you forget it. He also knows when he's doing something he shouldn't or touching something he knows he's not allowed to, as he'll start saying "no no nooo" whilst doing it!

He has also started to become scared by things, mainly spiders! It's a funny one because he likes to look for them, or thinks that he can see them  places, but is scared of them at the same time. Same as the dinosaurs at the zoo, he knows they are scary, but wants to go see them all the same, like tempting and pushing himself into being scared!


In terms of behaviour he's getting a little better when we are out around other children, there's been a lot less random hitting and he's a lot better at understanding when and how to say sorry. Most of the time if he does hit another child it's not unprovoked, and its usually a territorial or frustration thing. He has 3 or 4 friends who we see regularly, and he will always greet them with a big cuddle and be so happy to see them! He always asks after them when we are not with them, and is a very sociable little boy. He loves seeing all of our various family members, and just gets ridiculously excited when we visit or they visit us.  I dread to think what he's going to be like at our wedding, every single person he has ever met will be in the same room at the same time, it's probably going to send him over the edge...! He loves to and wants give cuddles to a lot of things, people, animals, toys, food the moon...and we get a "wuff you daddy/mummy" when he goes to sleep at night.

His sleeping is still pretty good, he's getting better at just being able to fall asleep in his room if we leave him in there still awake. In terms of potty training I'd say we are pretty much there! We only use a nappy at night, and keep him in pants when he naps in the day. I still have to ask him quite regularly if he needs to go to the toilet, to which most of the time he will reply no, so we make him try and go anyway because we've had a few accidents that way. But the majority of days we are accident free, when we are at home he will use the potty by himself without asking, but he just needs to get a little better at telling us he needs to go, especially for number twos! But I feel like we're over the hill and everyday is getting better! Hooray!

We've stopped our swimming lessons for the time being, but are still making an effort to go swimming every week together. He's still very confident in the water and can swim proper widths on the back kicking his legs, and has started to grasp swimming on his front and using his arms. He can jump in unaided, likes to put his face in the water, get in the pool backwards from sitting and can push off from the side in the pool with his legs on his back. I've loved to see his skill and confidence grow in the water, and hopefully towards the end of the year he will start swimming lessons without me being in the pool without him.

In September he will be starting preschool for a few hours in the morning, twice a week. It's only ever going to be for three hours, which for us I think is the perfect combination. He'll get stimulation and playtime with out children, with learning thrown in, and I'll get a few hours in the mornings to get some work done and have a break. After staying at home with him for two and a half years, I think it's going to do the both of us the world of good! But more on this later!

It's been a tough, but fun six months since we entered the two year old phase. We have constant daily battles when trying to get dressed, leave the house, stopping him running off, stop screeching, but like always there are some amazing redeeming features of this happy, energetic, loud, sweet, courageous, adventurous, funny and intelligent little boy that don't keep you mad at him for long.





a theo update

Last week Theo turned the grand old age of two and a half! Half way through the sometimes terrible but mostly pretty fun twos. Soon enough, when I blink he'll be three and further from that tiny worm we met that short time ago.

Currently I'm home alone with a long list of things to do and the whole day to complete them, but all I can think about is having a cuddle with Theo, to hear him calling me to come play with his trains or cars or a play in the garden. But I know when he's back I'll long for the space and time to myself, but as much as I wish to have time to myself, I miss him so and find myself walking into his room to look at the space he usually inhabits and I feel a little twinge in my heart that he isn't there. Such is the irony of being a parent, you wish for space and time alone, but once you have it all you want to do is be back with them and everything feels a little empty without your sidekick by your side.

So on with the update! Theo's speech is coming a long pretty well now, for those that don't see him for a short while comment on how much he is saying and for me I've definitely noticed a bit of an explosion recently. I'd say he's always been pretty average (whatever that is) when it comes to speech development, as he's always been pretty forward with physical development. But he constantly surprises me with his sentences and the amount of words that he knows. I don't remember teaching lots of names for things, but he has somehow gained that knowledge. A few weeks back he surprised when I asked him to get out the car "No mummy, I stay here in car". When we ask him what he did that day he will take a long pause "ummmmmmm, I go to zoo, see dinosaurs" etc. We have reached the world of "I", I get this, I do this, I want this, and my favourite "I go weeeeeeeee on toilet!" He is fully understanding what I am saying to him now, for example yesterday I lost a pen and I asked him if he had seen it to which he replied "no Mummy I don't see pen, you go upstairs find it". Hah! He likes to describe things of different sizes as big one/baby one, everything small or littler is baby sized. We have a favourite place to go and watch trains where there is apparently a baby, mummy and daddy sized train. A little while ago he started to mimic my tone of voice when telling him off, and has become quite bossy. He'll say "stop it right now" or "no mummy/daddy, you go over there" with this cross little expression on his face. He'll furrow his brow, squint his eyes and have a stern little mouth and put out his hand and yell "stop!" He knows what he wants and he won't let you forget it. He also knows when he's doing something he shouldn't or touching something he knows he's not allowed to, as he'll start saying "no no nooo" whilst doing it!

He has also started to become scared by things, mainly spiders! It's a funny one because he likes to look for them, or thinks that he can see them  places, but is scared of them at the same time. Same as the dinosaurs at the zoo, he knows they are scary, but wants to go see them all the same, like tempting and pushing himself into being scared!


In terms of behaviour he's getting a little better when we are out around other children, there's been a lot less random hitting and he's a lot better at understanding when and how to say sorry. Most of the time if he does hit another child it's not unprovoked, and its usually a territorial or frustration thing. He has 3 or 4 friends who we see regularly, and he will always greet them with a big cuddle and be so happy to see them! He always asks after them when we are not with them, and is a very sociable little boy. He loves seeing all of our various family members, and just gets ridiculously excited when we visit or they visit us.  I dread to think what he's going to be like at our wedding, every single person he has ever met will be in the same room at the same time, it's probably going to send him over the edge...! He loves to and wants give cuddles to a lot of things, people, animals, toys, food the moon...and we get a "wuff you daddy/mummy" when he goes to sleep at night.

His sleeping is still pretty good, he's getting better at just being able to fall asleep in his room if we leave him in there still awake. In terms of potty training I'd say we are pretty much there! We only use a nappy at night, and keep him in pants when he naps in the day. I still have to ask him quite regularly if he needs to go to the toilet, to which most of the time he will reply no, so we make him try and go anyway because we've had a few accidents that way. But the majority of days we are accident free, when we are at home he will use the potty by himself without asking, but he just needs to get a little better at telling us he needs to go, especially for number twos! But I feel like we're over the hill and everyday is getting better! Hooray!

We've stopped our swimming lessons for the time being, but are still making an effort to go swimming every week together. He's still very confident in the water and can swim proper widths on the back kicking his legs, and has started to grasp swimming on his front and using his arms. He can jump in unaided, likes to put his face in the water, get in the pool backwards from sitting and can push off from the side in the pool with his legs on his back. I've loved to see his skill and confidence grow in the water, and hopefully towards the end of the year he will start swimming lessons without me being in the pool without him.

In September he will be starting preschool for a few hours in the morning, twice a week. It's only ever going to be for three hours, which for us I think is the perfect combination. He'll get stimulation and playtime with out children, with learning thrown in, and I'll get a few hours in the mornings to get some work done and have a break. After staying at home with him for two and a half years, I think it's going to do the both of us the world of good! But more on this later!

It's been a tough, but fun six months since we entered the two year old phase. We have constant daily battles when trying to get dressed, leave the house, stopping him running off, stop screeching, but like always there are some amazing redeeming features of this happy, energetic, loud, sweet, courageous, adventurous, funny and intelligent little boy that don't keep you mad at him for long.





a theo update

I've been meaning to write this post for a while now, and my list of things to remember to record is getting longer and longer, so I'd better write it down now! These past few weeks have been tough, and to be honest I want to remember some positive things about Theo before we snap and ship him off to the circus.

So most recently Theo has discovered the dreaded word of 'mine'. Everything is 'mine' or 'my this and my that' and if you should interfere with anything that is his, then all hell will break loose. I don't know whether it's because he is currently cutting his back molars (I hope this is the reason) or whether it's because he's now a fully fledged two year old but we've seen some pretty spectacular tantrums as of late. Irrational and ridiculous don't really touch it. If I dare to cut some food up for him, or try to put his shoes on or do something the wrong way then hysterics will ensue. It's split second as well, one second he'll be fine and the next it's like the world has well and truly ended. He wants to be so independent, but lacks the skills to be so, such as dressing himself or doing up his car seat buckle, but if you attempt to help him then game over. I guess this is similar to other stages such as learning to crawl or walk, he's at the point where he knows he wants to do it but just lacks the strength and coordination to do so, so he's frustrated. But I can tell you, dear Theo I'm frustrated too, and it's wearing me down! But hopefully like all things to do with childhood, it will pass. But when you're in the moment it's hard to remember what they are usually like and you sort of resign yourself to the fact that you are raising a devil child and this is how it will be for eternity...

So anyway, lets move onto some more positive attributes of Theos personality and development shall we?!

He's getting pretty good at this whole talking thing, we now have quite a few sentences and has a few catch phrases. These include: "you alright, mmm nice ... (cake/tea/dinner/ice cream...) mummy, see you later, are you ok, close eyes mummy, stop it, hello everyone, goodbye everyone".

At the end of the day we like to have a conversation about what we did that day, he' pretty good at recalling most of the events or the people we saw with little prompting. Sometimes he surprises us at the things he remembers and he likes to tell us little stories.

He is still completely train obsessed, and will in fact throughout the day find things that resemble anything train related. If we see a bridge, or a bridge like shape he will insist that there is a "train coming". If there is a pattern on something that is vaguely track shaped he will inform us that it is in fact a train track. His use of his imagination is clearly getting so much stronger, the other day he was eating some porridge and with each spoonful he would tell me what animal it was in the shape of: rhino, dolphin, cow, dinosaur...He also likes spiders at the moment and likes to spot them everywhere we go! (Thankfully these too are in his imagination, otherwise I would be a slightly uncomfortable at the amount we see)

His favourite food at the moment is sausages, or hot dogs as he likes to call them. I'm not really sure where this obsession started, maybe it was Rob's little Saturday routine after football, stopping by the bakers and butchers to get bread and sausages to make sandwiches when they get home, or maybe it is our obsession with Ikea? (He doesn't even eat the hotdogs at Ikea, he just knows that's the hotdog homeland perhaps?!) Other favourite foods include: crumpets, melon, apples, pears, cheerios, ice cream and carrots.

Theo has grasped the concept of friends and if you ask them who his friends are he'll give you a long list of names. We try and see our friends at least once a week, and Theo will ask after them if we haven't seen them in a while! When we do see them they are most likely met with a hug and a huge hello! There are two girls who live next door who like to have little chats with Theo over the fence, when the weather was warmer last week Theo joined them for a paddle in their paddling pool.



 If Theo goes out into the garden he will yell their names until they appear or he gives up when I tell him they're not home, it's pretty sweet!

In terms of learning Theo can now recognise all the numbers, but sometimes getting 6 and 9 muddled up! He gets that they go in order, but can't quite get it right: 3,2,1, 3,4,8,6,7,5 etc. Same with the alphabet. His colours are good, as are his shapes. We have been attempting to show him what letters put together sound like, and what letters his name is made up from so he can perhaps start recognising words. I'm not even sure what the next step in learning is, but hey I've made it up this far!

So there we have it. Apart from being a bit of a monster at the moment Theo does show flashes of being a lovely sweet child; he constantly wants cuddles and kisses from us, to be played with and show us everything that he finds interesting. I just hope these past few weeks have been because he's not been feeling 100% and it is just a phase that will pass (quickly!)

a theo update

I've been meaning to write this post for a while now, and my list of things to remember to record is getting longer and longer, so I'd better write it down now! These past few weeks have been tough, and to be honest I want to remember some positive things about Theo before we snap and ship him off to the circus.

So most recently Theo has discovered the dreaded word of 'mine'. Everything is 'mine' or 'my this and my that' and if you should interfere with anything that is his, then all hell will break loose. I don't know whether it's because he is currently cutting his back molars (I hope this is the reason) or whether it's because he's now a fully fledged two year old but we've seen some pretty spectacular tantrums as of late. Irrational and ridiculous don't really touch it. If I dare to cut some food up for him, or try to put his shoes on or do something the wrong way then hysterics will ensue. It's split second as well, one second he'll be fine and the next it's like the world has well and truly ended. He wants to be so independent, but lacks the skills to be so, such as dressing himself or doing up his car seat buckle, but if you attempt to help him then game over. I guess this is similar to other stages such as learning to crawl or walk, he's at the point where he knows he wants to do it but just lacks the strength and coordination to do so, so he's frustrated. But I can tell you, dear Theo I'm frustrated too, and it's wearing me down! But hopefully like all things to do with childhood, it will pass. But when you're in the moment it's hard to remember what they are usually like and you sort of resign yourself to the fact that you are raising a devil child and this is how it will be for eternity...

So anyway, lets move onto some more positive attributes of Theos personality and development shall we?!

He's getting pretty good at this whole talking thing, we now have quite a few sentences and has a few catch phrases. These include: "you alright, mmm nice ... (cake/tea/dinner/ice cream...) mummy, see you later, are you ok, close eyes mummy, stop it, hello everyone, goodbye everyone".

At the end of the day we like to have a conversation about what we did that day, he' pretty good at recalling most of the events or the people we saw with little prompting. Sometimes he surprises us at the things he remembers and he likes to tell us little stories.

He is still completely train obsessed, and will in fact throughout the day find things that resemble anything train related. If we see a bridge, or a bridge like shape he will insist that there is a "train coming". If there is a pattern on something that is vaguely track shaped he will inform us that it is in fact a train track. His use of his imagination is clearly getting so much stronger, the other day he was eating some porridge and with each spoonful he would tell me what animal it was in the shape of: rhino, dolphin, cow, dinosaur...He also likes spiders at the moment and likes to spot them everywhere we go! (Thankfully these too are in his imagination, otherwise I would be a slightly uncomfortable at the amount we see)

His favourite food at the moment is sausages, or hot dogs as he likes to call them. I'm not really sure where this obsession started, maybe it was Rob's little Saturday routine after football, stopping by the bakers and butchers to get bread and sausages to make sandwiches when they get home, or maybe it is our obsession with Ikea? (He doesn't even eat the hotdogs at Ikea, he just knows that's the hotdog homeland perhaps?!) Other favourite foods include: crumpets, melon, apples, pears, cheerios, ice cream and carrots.

Theo has grasped the concept of friends and if you ask them who his friends are he'll give you a long list of names. We try and see our friends at least once a week, and Theo will ask after them if we haven't seen them in a while! When we do see them they are most likely met with a hug and a huge hello! There are two girls who live next door who like to have little chats with Theo over the fence, when the weather was warmer last week Theo joined them for a paddle in their paddling pool.



 If Theo goes out into the garden he will yell their names until they appear or he gives up when I tell him they're not home, it's pretty sweet!

In terms of learning Theo can now recognise all the numbers, but sometimes getting 6 and 9 muddled up! He gets that they go in order, but can't quite get it right: 3,2,1, 3,4,8,6,7,5 etc. Same with the alphabet. His colours are good, as are his shapes. We have been attempting to show him what letters put together sound like, and what letters his name is made up from so he can perhaps start recognising words. I'm not even sure what the next step in learning is, but hey I've made it up this far!

So there we have it. Apart from being a bit of a monster at the moment Theo does show flashes of being a lovely sweet child; he constantly wants cuddles and kisses from us, to be played with and show us everything that he finds interesting. I just hope these past few weeks have been because he's not been feeling 100% and it is just a phase that will pass (quickly!)

a theo update

This little boy is growing up so quick! It's hard to remember all the things he does on a day to day basis, but here are a few things that make me smile and wish I could go and wake him up and cuddle him once he's gone to bed (but really, I'm bloody glad that he has gone to bed)

It seems as though suddenly a switch has gone in his head and all the months of hard work teaching him colours, the alphabet, numbers and shapes has really paid off! He loves colours and letters the most. When we are walking or riding the bus he will notice and point out his favourite letters and gets oh so very excited by this. Imagine how good it must be to get excited by just spotting letters? He knows pretty much all of them now, and has great fun completing his alphabet puzzle that he got for Christmas from yaya. If he's having a bit of a whinge I can often distract him by asking him what colours things are, or what shape. He's getting there with numbers, he can say them all and recognise most, but hasn't quite got the hang of putting them in order! But this has all happened in a matter of a week or two, fascinating!

He is getting a lot better at playing independently, a few times recently he's been happy to play in his room alone for 15-20 minutes, or just potter around. A lot of the time I don't need to actually play with him, just be in the same room or near to him. He loves doing puzzles at the moment, and will bring one or call me over and pat the floor next to him saying "come on mummy". Other games we are currently enjoying are tunnels (making a tunnel out of everything possible, his favourite being under the covers), hiding from daddy and being found, building towers and knocking them down, playing pairs with picture cards and of course trains. He's started to act out a few stories and situations with his trains, and I often hear him making his trains hang off the egde of things and saying "help help"... wonder where he got that one from!

When we're out he likes to walk along side his pushchair holding onto the side, or to be carried. He's recently decided that he needs a new mummy and will attach himself to one of my friends, much to the disgust of her own child. He knows I'm his mummy, but likes to have a cuddle with other mummy's too. I'm not going to lie, some times it makes me feel a little dejected! But then when we are home I can't prise him off my leg so I guess it all balances out...

But he's getting good at making friends, and will always say hello and goodbye. A good way to bribe him out of the house is by telling him we're going to see a certain person, and he calls them his friend and does the friend sign (thanks Mr. Tumble). It is very very sweet! If he does hit or push a child he's becoming a lot better at understanding he's been naughty and saying sorry. He will always try and give them a cuddle, whether they want one or not. I have been struggling a lot with the whole discipline thing, but that's another story. But mostly I figure it's just a phase a lot of them go through, and especially boys.

His language is getting pretty good too. He can tell me most of the time what he wants, and describes and names things all the time. When he really wants something he'll whingerly (yeh I made that word up) repeat over and over what it is, until you can name the thing he wants, then he'll stop dead and say "alright"! At the moment it's too endearing not to give into what he wants...but most of the time it's just for food or a drink!

I'm sure theres a million other things he does that I should record, but that's all my tired brain can conjure up at the moment!

a theo update

This little boy is growing up so quick! It's hard to remember all the things he does on a day to day basis, but here are a few things that make me smile and wish I could go and wake him up and cuddle him once he's gone to bed (but really, I'm bloody glad that he has gone to bed)

It seems as though suddenly a switch has gone in his head and all the months of hard work teaching him colours, the alphabet, numbers and shapes has really paid off! He loves colours and letters the most. When we are walking or riding the bus he will notice and point out his favourite letters and gets oh so very excited by this. Imagine how good it must be to get excited by just spotting letters? He knows pretty much all of them now, and has great fun completing his alphabet puzzle that he got for Christmas from yaya. If he's having a bit of a whinge I can often distract him by asking him what colours things are, or what shape. He's getting there with numbers, he can say them all and recognise most, but hasn't quite got the hang of putting them in order! But this has all happened in a matter of a week or two, fascinating!

He is getting a lot better at playing independently, a few times recently he's been happy to play in his room alone for 15-20 minutes, or just potter around. A lot of the time I don't need to actually play with him, just be in the same room or near to him. He loves doing puzzles at the moment, and will bring one or call me over and pat the floor next to him saying "come on mummy". Other games we are currently enjoying are tunnels (making a tunnel out of everything possible, his favourite being under the covers), hiding from daddy and being found, building towers and knocking them down, playing pairs with picture cards and of course trains. He's started to act out a few stories and situations with his trains, and I often hear him making his trains hang off the egde of things and saying "help help"... wonder where he got that one from!

When we're out he likes to walk along side his pushchair holding onto the side, or to be carried. He's recently decided that he needs a new mummy and will attach himself to one of my friends, much to the disgust of her own child. He knows I'm his mummy, but likes to have a cuddle with other mummy's too. I'm not going to lie, some times it makes me feel a little dejected! But then when we are home I can't prise him off my leg so I guess it all balances out...

But he's getting good at making friends, and will always say hello and goodbye. A good way to bribe him out of the house is by telling him we're going to see a certain person, and he calls them his friend and does the friend sign (thanks Mr. Tumble). It is very very sweet! If he does hit or push a child he's becoming a lot better at understanding he's been naughty and saying sorry. He will always try and give them a cuddle, whether they want one or not. I have been struggling a lot with the whole discipline thing, but that's another story. But mostly I figure it's just a phase a lot of them go through, and especially boys.

His language is getting pretty good too. He can tell me most of the time what he wants, and describes and names things all the time. When he really wants something he'll whingerly (yeh I made that word up) repeat over and over what it is, until you can name the thing he wants, then he'll stop dead and say "alright"! At the moment it's too endearing not to give into what he wants...but most of the time it's just for food or a drink!

I'm sure theres a million other things he does that I should record, but that's all my tired brain can conjure up at the moment!

a theo update

phew it's been a while hasn't it? I was aiming to do one of these when he turned two, but as always I didn't quite get round to it...

So here we go, we reached the terrible twos, but for now (obviously in a few months I'm going to look back at this post and want to punch my past self in the face) things seem to be ok...no terrible tantrums as of yet, but then again we are only a few weeks in! So mainly our introduction to the twos has been pretty good!

Theo is talking so much, and picking up new words all the time. He has never really been a parrot when talking, but I can hear him start to repeat words and sound them out just after I say them to him. Once he gets stuck on a new phrase or word that will be it for the next few days,  for example once I exclaimed that he had cold hands, and straight away after he repeated 'colds ands' and all day...and the day after. He's getting pretty good at putting words together, and knows different associations with them, for example if we talk about an airplane he'll then say in the sky...etc. He likes to name as many things as possible, and will always ask for things with words, and understands when we ask him to do or get something. This language part is so exciting to watch, because I feel like we can finally sort of see what is going on in his head a little bit more, and the things he gets excited about and wants to talk about.

His favourite games at the moment are jumping on the bed, playing nun-nights (I mentioned this before about finding bed like places and pretending to go to sleep, genius), puppets (he'll do anything the puppet asks him to do), puzzles, peep-o and all ones which involve making load noises and screeching! He also still loves playing with his trains, and loves anything that is tunnel like, Rob and Theo play a game which involves a train being put through items of clothing, like a sleeve or trouser leg and waiting for it to come out the other end...




Theo is still as confident as ever and will say and wave hello at lots of people, he'll always say goodbye, and to people he knows well this means a kiss and a cuddle. He loves older children too and will follow them around hoping they notice him, and a recent obsession has started with babies....

He's a little obsessed with me at the moment, when he wakes up I hear him calling mummy mummy, then he joins us in bed for a morning cuddle and for the rest of the day just wants to be in the same place as me, to be carried and to be cuddled. Of course sometimes I want my space, but really I'm trying to embrace this phase as much as possible because it's nice to feel wanted and loved, and that might not last forever!

In terms of eating things are still pretty good, he knows what breakfast, lunch and dinner are, and will sit and feed himself all his meals pretty much. He's learnt what cake is and ask for it on a daily basis, and if he sees a tin that they're usually kept him them he'll find a way to get it down...need to start hiding them better or just not having cake in the house! We were in a cafe the other day and he started yelling 'mummy cake' over and over again... He's also a little obsessed with biscuits and dunking them in tea. When he sees a mug he'll instantly proclaim 'hot tea!' and want a biscuit to dunk in it, he's tried some of my tea too (redbush not any caffeine!) and seems to quite like it.

He loves going for walks at the moment and running up and down the hill, but he hates to have dirty hands. In fact if we are at home or at playgroup he will deliberately dirty his hands just so he can wash them...I know that it doesn't make sense, but he really loves washing them.


At bedtime he loves to be read to, and his current favourites are: Green eggs and ham, the gruffalos child, this moose belongs to me and the train goes. He will point and tell you which books he wants, and says again to repeat it. Bedtime is the only time he'll stay still enough to read a whole book, he prefers to browse through books in the day (as he has a pretty short attention span!) He loves doing puzzles whether they be real or on the ipad, and is pretty good at memory games. Speaking of memory I'm constantly surprised about how much he remembers, he can remember every person who he's met and knows the name of, he remembers every place that he's ever played in and remembers story lines from books and Thomas episodes. He's learning some songs too at the moment, and the other day I heard him sort of singing twinkle twinkle. His all time favourite song is sleeping bunnies, probably because he gets to pretend to sleep for half of it (weirdo) he also likes row row the boat!

His colours are pretty good, he knows blue, yellow, orange, red, white, brown and green, even though he says 'green man' for everything that he sees as green, because he loves the green man when crossing the road. He always wants to press the button on the crossing and will eagerly await the sight of the green go man! His favourite numbers (and the only ones he can say) are 2, 6, 7, 8 and 10 and his only letter so far is o...but we're getting there!

That's all I can really think of at the moment, I need to start writing things down more often to remember things as they happen, or do these posts more regularly as there are always things I think about writing about and then forget! doh!

a theo update

phew it's been a while hasn't it? I was aiming to do one of these when he turned two, but as always I didn't quite get round to it...

So here we go, we reached the terrible twos, but for now (obviously in a few months I'm going to look back at this post and want to punch my past self in the face) things seem to be ok...no terrible tantrums as of yet, but then again we are only a few weeks in! So mainly our introduction to the twos has been pretty good!

Theo is talking so much, and picking up new words all the time. He has never really been a parrot when talking, but I can hear him start to repeat words and sound them out just after I say them to him. Once he gets stuck on a new phrase or word that will be it for the next few days,  for example once I exclaimed that he had cold hands, and straight away after he repeated 'colds ands' and all day...and the day after. He's getting pretty good at putting words together, and knows different associations with them, for example if we talk about an airplane he'll then say in the sky...etc. He likes to name as many things as possible, and will always ask for things with words, and understands when we ask him to do or get something. This language part is so exciting to watch, because I feel like we can finally sort of see what is going on in his head a little bit more, and the things he gets excited about and wants to talk about.

His favourite games at the moment are jumping on the bed, playing nun-nights (I mentioned this before about finding bed like places and pretending to go to sleep, genius), puppets (he'll do anything the puppet asks him to do), puzzles, peep-o and all ones which involve making load noises and screeching! He also still loves playing with his trains, and loves anything that is tunnel like, Rob and Theo play a game which involves a train being put through items of clothing, like a sleeve or trouser leg and waiting for it to come out the other end...




Theo is still as confident as ever and will say and wave hello at lots of people, he'll always say goodbye, and to people he knows well this means a kiss and a cuddle. He loves older children too and will follow them around hoping they notice him, and a recent obsession has started with babies....

He's a little obsessed with me at the moment, when he wakes up I hear him calling mummy mummy, then he joins us in bed for a morning cuddle and for the rest of the day just wants to be in the same place as me, to be carried and to be cuddled. Of course sometimes I want my space, but really I'm trying to embrace this phase as much as possible because it's nice to feel wanted and loved, and that might not last forever!

In terms of eating things are still pretty good, he knows what breakfast, lunch and dinner are, and will sit and feed himself all his meals pretty much. He's learnt what cake is and ask for it on a daily basis, and if he sees a tin that they're usually kept him them he'll find a way to get it down...need to start hiding them better or just not having cake in the house! We were in a cafe the other day and he started yelling 'mummy cake' over and over again... He's also a little obsessed with biscuits and dunking them in tea. When he sees a mug he'll instantly proclaim 'hot tea!' and want a biscuit to dunk in it, he's tried some of my tea too (redbush not any caffeine!) and seems to quite like it.

He loves going for walks at the moment and running up and down the hill, but he hates to have dirty hands. In fact if we are at home or at playgroup he will deliberately dirty his hands just so he can wash them...I know that it doesn't make sense, but he really loves washing them.


At bedtime he loves to be read to, and his current favourites are: Green eggs and ham, the gruffalos child, this moose belongs to me and the train goes. He will point and tell you which books he wants, and says again to repeat it. Bedtime is the only time he'll stay still enough to read a whole book, he prefers to browse through books in the day (as he has a pretty short attention span!) He loves doing puzzles whether they be real or on the ipad, and is pretty good at memory games. Speaking of memory I'm constantly surprised about how much he remembers, he can remember every person who he's met and knows the name of, he remembers every place that he's ever played in and remembers story lines from books and Thomas episodes. He's learning some songs too at the moment, and the other day I heard him sort of singing twinkle twinkle. His all time favourite song is sleeping bunnies, probably because he gets to pretend to sleep for half of it (weirdo) he also likes row row the boat!

His colours are pretty good, he knows blue, yellow, orange, red, white, brown and green, even though he says 'green man' for everything that he sees as green, because he loves the green man when crossing the road. He always wants to press the button on the crossing and will eagerly await the sight of the green go man! His favourite numbers (and the only ones he can say) are 2, 6, 7, 8 and 10 and his only letter so far is o...but we're getting there!

That's all I can really think of at the moment, I need to start writing things down more often to remember things as they happen, or do these posts more regularly as there are always things I think about writing about and then forget! doh!

a theo update


wow so for once I actually kept my promise and wrote a post that I said I would! What an achievement!

So as usual this update doesn't really come at any special time, I think Theo is about 22 and a half months? Sounds about right! I kind of wish I'd stuck to some sort of format for the updates, like Ashley does in her ever brilliant monthly updates (that always make me giggle so much!) So I could properly record the new things that happen every month, things go so fast and he is changing all the time, and I know my memory will only record a slice of it all.

...

But just before I start I just wanted to say how much my heart goes out to all the families who have been affected by the unspeakably horrific events of yesterday in Connecticut. I know I definitely take it for granted that when I wake up tomorrow my lovely boy will still be here and our days will go on as normal, and for that I'm scared. I know that there is so much good out there in the world, but it scares me that one act of bad can devastate so many lives. I know I, and many other mothers out there have hugged their children extra tight these last few days.

...

So...firstly I thought I'd begin with Theo's sleep.

I really really don't want to jinx things, as the situation has been pretty perfect these last few weeks, in fact since we moved to this new house. He is still in the same routine as before, bath, play, stories in bed then sleep, all with Rob, but now instead of waking up at 4 or 5 needing comfort he will usually sleep right through from 8pm to 7am. Hurrah! I never ever thought I'd be writing that sentence on here, and using the phrase 'sleeping through'. It was always a distant promise land, never to be obtained. A new development also is that Theo has taken it upon himself to sometimes get himself up in the morning. By this I mean he switches on his bedside light, plays with a few toys, or reads some books in bed. On these mornings instead of us being woken by his cries when he wakes up, we are woken by the sounds of the 'how to speak wookie'  book or him playing with his train set. The other morning I went in to find him back in bed all tucked in reading books, I can't tell you how sweet that was!

The other thing that is going pretty well at the moment is food. Again I don't want to jinx these things, but it feels weird not to have something to complain about!? I'm guessing this might be the calm before the terrible two's storm?

Meal times have just got a whole lot easier, he eats a good breakfast (and often asks for more!), and lunch, and dinners which were the hardest, are going pretty smoothly. There have been no pleading to finish meals, or just to even try the meal I have lovingly cooked him, instead he happily climbs up into his chair when we tell him dinner is ready and tries and eats most of his meal himself. He is getting pretty good at eating with his cutlery too, and will feed himself his entire meal. He does have a slight (big) obsession with dipping, and if we have any condiments, then he has to have them too, luckily its only usual mayonnaise, but he does seem to like ketchup quite a lot...I'll blame Rob for that one, thanks.

His memory is getting so much better these days too, he knows each and every place he goes to play, and if we pass the road they're on then he gets pretty upset that we're not going in! He remembers that his friend Sam lives a few doors up from us, and every time we come out our house, he points and say's "naam?" and again gets pretty upset when I tell him we're not seeing him today. His memory of people is getting really good too, and we've started a little game of asking him who is there and who isn't (wild, I know). We ask him if mummy and daddy are there, and Alma, then grandparents, friends, and other objects etc and he tells us with a very definite shake of the head and "noo" that they aren't there.

He has also started doing a funny little thing, where he will say goodbye to things. But he will say goodbye to them a good while after they have gone. For example we got the train the other day, and about half an hour later he suddenly comes out with "bye waa-raa" (his word for Thomas/trains). He will then reel off a list of things that have come and gone, such as Daddy, The Gruffalo, chair, ball, car...you get the picture! 

Talking of Thomas, that boy is obsessed! He knows a lot of the names and loves spotting them in his books...he's a little video!



We have collected quite a few Thomas toys and books over the last few months, including some amazing second hand die-cast Thomas and friends figures, which have to come everywhere with us, and I always find in my pockets or floating around my bag. Rob picked up the whole dvd boxset when he finished his last job at a bargain price of £5, and I can tell you it certainly gets a lot of use!

Other obsessions include the Gruffalo, and both Rob and I can nearly recite the whole book, and recently we have discovered the delights of the films! He's also still obsessed with balls, cars, animals and tractors.

Theo is still ridiculously confident, and will say hello to just about anyone. He gets pretty friendly with his friends, and gives out hugs and kisses, even when they're not really wanted (more often than not). He loves playing with older children, well he likes to think that he's playing with them, but actually they're just playing their own games and he's getting in the way. It kind of breaks my heart a bit when I see the joy in his face when he thinks he's being chased by them, and then looks back to see that they've stopped and gone off...but it doesn't last long or bother him as he find something else to play with.

He likes to mimic a lot of the things we do. I think Theo picks up physical actions and expressions a lot quicker than words at the moment, and likes to copy everything we do. He knows that his rubbish goes out in the bin, and will always take it and put it in himself, he also picks up his empty plates and puts takes then to the kitchen! (starting him early!) He likes to climb into bed, pull the covers over him and shut his eyes in pretend sleeping, he likes to wipe his nose with his own tissue, wipe his hands and face after dinner himself, and rolls up his sleeves in anticipation of washing his hands. Something here tells me that he likes to be clean?! He also loves to put on his own wellies and shoes, hat and coat and stomp around the house. He also loves jumping, climbing, wobbling and of course dancing!

In terms of language, he definitely knows a lot of words, even if they are his own version of the word he has good comprehension. I often feel like I'm his interpreter at the moment as I can understand most of what he's talking about even when others can't! He seems to pick up new words everyday though at the moment, and is constantly talking and pointing things out. He's picked up some really funny things that I have no idea where they came from, such as 'cheese!' when he sees or plays with a camera, and 'daaa' when he makes or completes something (as in ta-daa!). He knows when to say thank you, and say pweease when prompted, and asks 'more?' for a lot of things! he's started to say a few words together such as "I stuck" and "in there". At the moment in terms of learning he seems to be favouring colours and shapes over numbers and the alphabet.

phew! Sorry this has been a long update, but it may all seem a little rosy here, but of course it isn't like that all of the time! We have our bad days, or more likely bad parts of everyday, where the whinging drives me mad. He knows how to play me and has a funny little fake cry and scrunches up his face in a huff. I'm waiting for the full blown tantrums as we've seen quite a few glimpses, and he certainly likes to dramatically throw himself to the ground on all fours and have a cry.

here are a few outtakes from my trying to convince him to stand in front of the Christmas tree for a photo, with the aid or rice cakes and in the night garden...(no other way)


giving me the v?








a theo update


wow so for once I actually kept my promise and wrote a post that I said I would! What an achievement!

So as usual this update doesn't really come at any special time, I think Theo is about 22 and a half months? Sounds about right! I kind of wish I'd stuck to some sort of format for the updates, like Ashley does in her ever brilliant monthly updates (that always make me giggle so much!) So I could properly record the new things that happen every month, things go so fast and he is changing all the time, and I know my memory will only record a slice of it all.

...

But just before I start I just wanted to say how much my heart goes out to all the families who have been affected by the unspeakably horrific events of yesterday in Connecticut. I know I definitely take it for granted that when I wake up tomorrow my lovely boy will still be here and our days will go on as normal, and for that I'm scared. I know that there is so much good out there in the world, but it scares me that one act of bad can devastate so many lives. I know I, and many other mothers out there have hugged their children extra tight these last few days.

...

So...firstly I thought I'd begin with Theo's sleep.

I really really don't want to jinx things, as the situation has been pretty perfect these last few weeks, in fact since we moved to this new house. He is still in the same routine as before, bath, play, stories in bed then sleep, all with Rob, but now instead of waking up at 4 or 5 needing comfort he will usually sleep right through from 8pm to 7am. Hurrah! I never ever thought I'd be writing that sentence on here, and using the phrase 'sleeping through'. It was always a distant promise land, never to be obtained. A new development also is that Theo has taken it upon himself to sometimes get himself up in the morning. By this I mean he switches on his bedside light, plays with a few toys, or reads some books in bed. On these mornings instead of us being woken by his cries when he wakes up, we are woken by the sounds of the 'how to speak wookie'  book or him playing with his train set. The other morning I went in to find him back in bed all tucked in reading books, I can't tell you how sweet that was!

The other thing that is going pretty well at the moment is food. Again I don't want to jinx these things, but it feels weird not to have something to complain about!? I'm guessing this might be the calm before the terrible two's storm?

Meal times have just got a whole lot easier, he eats a good breakfast (and often asks for more!), and lunch, and dinners which were the hardest, are going pretty smoothly. There have been no pleading to finish meals, or just to even try the meal I have lovingly cooked him, instead he happily climbs up into his chair when we tell him dinner is ready and tries and eats most of his meal himself. He is getting pretty good at eating with his cutlery too, and will feed himself his entire meal. He does have a slight (big) obsession with dipping, and if we have any condiments, then he has to have them too, luckily its only usual mayonnaise, but he does seem to like ketchup quite a lot...I'll blame Rob for that one, thanks.

His memory is getting so much better these days too, he knows each and every place he goes to play, and if we pass the road they're on then he gets pretty upset that we're not going in! He remembers that his friend Sam lives a few doors up from us, and every time we come out our house, he points and say's "naam?" and again gets pretty upset when I tell him we're not seeing him today. His memory of people is getting really good too, and we've started a little game of asking him who is there and who isn't (wild, I know). We ask him if mummy and daddy are there, and Alma, then grandparents, friends, and other objects etc and he tells us with a very definite shake of the head and "noo" that they aren't there.

He has also started doing a funny little thing, where he will say goodbye to things. But he will say goodbye to them a good while after they have gone. For example we got the train the other day, and about half an hour later he suddenly comes out with "bye waa-raa" (his word for Thomas/trains). He will then reel off a list of things that have come and gone, such as Daddy, The Gruffalo, chair, ball, car...you get the picture! 

Talking of Thomas, that boy is obsessed! He knows a lot of the names and loves spotting them in his books...he's a little video!



We have collected quite a few Thomas toys and books over the last few months, including some amazing second hand die-cast Thomas and friends figures, which have to come everywhere with us, and I always find in my pockets or floating around my bag. Rob picked up the whole dvd boxset when he finished his last job at a bargain price of £5, and I can tell you it certainly gets a lot of use!

Other obsessions include the Gruffalo, and both Rob and I can nearly recite the whole book, and recently we have discovered the delights of the films! He's also still obsessed with balls, cars, animals and tractors.

Theo is still ridiculously confident, and will say hello to just about anyone. He gets pretty friendly with his friends, and gives out hugs and kisses, even when they're not really wanted (more often than not). He loves playing with older children, well he likes to think that he's playing with them, but actually they're just playing their own games and he's getting in the way. It kind of breaks my heart a bit when I see the joy in his face when he thinks he's being chased by them, and then looks back to see that they've stopped and gone off...but it doesn't last long or bother him as he find something else to play with.

He likes to mimic a lot of the things we do. I think Theo picks up physical actions and expressions a lot quicker than words at the moment, and likes to copy everything we do. He knows that his rubbish goes out in the bin, and will always take it and put it in himself, he also picks up his empty plates and puts takes then to the kitchen! (starting him early!) He likes to climb into bed, pull the covers over him and shut his eyes in pretend sleeping, he likes to wipe his nose with his own tissue, wipe his hands and face after dinner himself, and rolls up his sleeves in anticipation of washing his hands. Something here tells me that he likes to be clean?! He also loves to put on his own wellies and shoes, hat and coat and stomp around the house. He also loves jumping, climbing, wobbling and of course dancing!

In terms of language, he definitely knows a lot of words, even if they are his own version of the word he has good comprehension. I often feel like I'm his interpreter at the moment as I can understand most of what he's talking about even when others can't! He seems to pick up new words everyday though at the moment, and is constantly talking and pointing things out. He's picked up some really funny things that I have no idea where they came from, such as 'cheese!' when he sees or plays with a camera, and 'daaa' when he makes or completes something (as in ta-daa!). He knows when to say thank you, and say pweease when prompted, and asks 'more?' for a lot of things! he's started to say a few words together such as "I stuck" and "in there". At the moment in terms of learning he seems to be favouring colours and shapes over numbers and the alphabet.

phew! Sorry this has been a long update, but it may all seem a little rosy here, but of course it isn't like that all of the time! We have our bad days, or more likely bad parts of everyday, where the whinging drives me mad. He knows how to play me and has a funny little fake cry and scrunches up his face in a huff. I'm waiting for the full blown tantrums as we've seen quite a few glimpses, and he certainly likes to dramatically throw himself to the ground on all fours and have a cry.

here are a few outtakes from my trying to convince him to stand in front of the Christmas tree for a photo, with the aid or rice cakes and in the night garden...(no other way)


giving me the v?








a theo update


So Theo has reached the magnificant age of 20 months. I'm not sure why, but I like the sound of 20 months, and I have certainly been enjoying this wonderful age! Of course it's still not easy, but the frustrating days and bits just get over shadowed by the cute and amazing bits.

So Theo is closer to being two than is to one, that's scary, I've got a nearly two year old...?

So I thought it was a little time for an update before I forget loads of things. First I'll start with words, because that seems to be the biggest, most exciting thing at the moment. It's amazing to see how quickly he picks up new words and how much he is just talking ALL the time. They may not be intelligible words just yet, but he is talking to us and babbling non-stop. Most of his words aren't perfect, but I can figure out what he means by the way he says it, and that he always says the same thing for the object etc. For example he says "flower" but his version is something along the lines of "ow-arr-rrii" which is pretty similar to butterfly! He is constantly saying "oh look" and pointing and trying to name objects. Yesterday a friend came over with her little boy, and it was amazing to see them actually communicating with each other. Theo was telling his friend to get inside the box house, and they were passing each other toys and directing all the time. It was amazing! He has stated to link a few words, such as "hello...tractor/daddy/grandpa/yaya/car/dog/alma and he tries to say mr.tumble! On that note he still isn't really saying Mummy. He mastered Grandpa in a day, and said yaya to my mum (her name for grandma) last weekend, and everything is daddy, daddy...but still no mummy. He knows that I am mummy, as when you ask him he will point to me and he also does this funny thing where he will touch his or my chest and say "nyaa" which I'm guessing has something to do with my boobs and therefore his version of mummy (as of course I was only ever seen as the milk machine...) He knows and says pretty much all the body parts to head, shoulders, knees and toes, just the shoulders and knees to go! He likes to point out facial features the most, poking us in the eye and tugging on our ears and sticking out his tongue!

Anyway, so that's all very exciting! He seems to like mainly naming things at the moment, and we have great fun pointing out loads of different objects and naming them or making noises for them. But probably my favourite thing at the moment is when we are stopped at traffic lights he will shout from the back seat "ready....go!" (ready sounds a lot like daddy though) It's so funny, and when followed by a round about he goes "weeeeeeeeeeee"

Theo is still really outgoing and will say hello and bye to everyone. People in the street, in shops, people who come to the door, friends, strangers, adults, children; everyone gets one! Theo is also very affectionate, a little too much sometimes as he tries to cuddle everyone if he gets the chance. The other day we went to a pub for lunch, and there was another little boy a few months younger, so we introduced them and within about 30 seconds Theo was hugging him and gave him a big old kiss on the lips...not shy at all!

That leads me nicely onto the other end of the spectrum which is the problems we were having with Theo hitting other children when playing. Which thankfully (touch wood) seems to be getting better. We went to a playgroup the other day and I think, we managed a whole session without one hit, unless he got a few sneaky ones in when I wasn't watching. But now if he does do it, or do something else a little naughty he will instantly hold out his arms for a cuddle and go "awww". Which to me is his way of saying sorry. When we are out I will always take him to the side and tell him that it's not nice to hit, and that it's a not very nice thing to do and that we need to say sorry. So I think it's working...

I'm not sure whether it's because I've stopped nursing him or what, but Theo also seems to want a lot more physical attention from us. He wants to have hugs all the time (and they really are the best, proper arms wrapped round your neck hugs!) He will come and park himself down on my lap and snuggle in for a proper cuddle, which I love. I have to say I was worried that I would lose out on the one on one close time I had with Theo when I stopped feeding, but I don't think we have. Plus the cuddles are a little nicer than him climbing on me, pulling up my top and grabbing at my boob and me having to lie there a little trapped!

Theo is still extremely active, he runs everywhere we go, wants to daringly climb everything and is even started to jump! He still dances all the time too, and it's just the best! (here are a few gifs I made of him, a little annoying sorry!)


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Theo still gets a little clingy at time, especially when we are at home. Actually only when we are at home. If I try and leave the room to go to the toilet then he will stand at the gate and wail until I return. He will happily play with his train set for a long time, but as long as I'm in the room with him. I am trying to be a little bit more inventive at home and am going to start doing more activities with him, hands on, and exploratory  play, so if anyone has any good, cheap and easy ideas send them my way (or websites for that matter!) The other morning I quickly made up a little game, where I filled tupperware boxes with different objects, such a pebbles, macaroni, crayons and thread (the only things I could find around the house!). First we shook them and listened to the different sounds, then opened them to look and feel the objects, then we tried to fit the lids back on but the game ended with Theo trying to put the bits of macaroni in the middle of the thread spools, which entertained him for a good ten minutes..wish I'd just done that from the start!

In terms of eating Theo still goes very up and down. Some days and weeks he will eat three square meals, by himself. No me trying to shove food in his mouth and pleading with him to at least try his food. Then some days he just point blank refuses to try things, things I know he likes! We have a little doll who we like to bring out at these times so he can feed her some first, then usually he takes a little nibble for himself. Sometimes we resorted to letting him eat on the sofa, just so I know he has a full belly before going to bed, not great, but it works...He is still really good at self- feeding a can use a fork and spoon pretty well, it always amazes me when he polishes off a whole bowl of porridge by himself!


In terms of current obsessions it's still very much trains, planes, cars and tractors, oh an naa-niis (his version of nee-naw ie emergency vehicles) He always points to the sky and does his plane impression, and likes to point out every car, "oh look - car" and ha started to ask us to put Thomas on the telly...uh oh! He stands there and points at the boxset and nods his head over and over saying "yeh, yeh". He does this every time he wants something, just yeh, yeh, yeh!

Oh dear I still haven't gotten to sleep! I hope you're all still hanging in there, I'll try and speed things along! But it's going well, sometimes he doesn't sleep completley 'through' and has a little wake up about about 3-4, but can usually be settled back pretty quickly. On a good night he will sleep from about 7.30-8pm til 6-6.30am, then with a little cuddling and snoozing in bed he can be persuaded to stay in bed until about 7. But usually he is up from about 6, where I go in and we read a little story and I set up his train set and doze in his bed whilst he plays. I think we have done quite well with the whole sleeping thing (finally) and haven't had too much trouble with the transition to the bigger bed. But I think I will go into more detail at a later date with that one!

But I think I'll leave it there! We're having so much fun at the moment, but I am well and truly knackered at the end of the day...so on that note, the sofa is calling me!

oh and I know I mentioned it before, and I promise I won't do it often, but we would be ever so grateful if you took a minute to give us a little vote on top baby blogs, by clicking on the icon to the right! Thanks!!

a theo update


So Theo has reached the magnificant age of 20 months. I'm not sure why, but I like the sound of 20 months, and I have certainly been enjoying this wonderful age! Of course it's still not easy, but the frustrating days and bits just get over shadowed by the cute and amazing bits.

So Theo is closer to being two than is to one, that's scary, I've got a nearly two year old...?

So I thought it was a little time for an update before I forget loads of things. First I'll start with words, because that seems to be the biggest, most exciting thing at the moment. It's amazing to see how quickly he picks up new words and how much he is just talking ALL the time. They may not be intelligible words just yet, but he is talking to us and babbling non-stop. Most of his words aren't perfect, but I can figure out what he means by the way he says it, and that he always says the same thing for the object etc. For example he says "flower" but his version is something along the lines of "ow-arr-rrii" which is pretty similar to butterfly! He is constantly saying "oh look" and pointing and trying to name objects. Yesterday a friend came over with her little boy, and it was amazing to see them actually communicating with each other. Theo was telling his friend to get inside the box house, and they were passing each other toys and directing all the time. It was amazing! He has stated to link a few words, such as "hello...tractor/daddy/grandpa/yaya/car/dog/alma and he tries to say mr.tumble! On that note he still isn't really saying Mummy. He mastered Grandpa in a day, and said yaya to my mum (her name for grandma) last weekend, and everything is daddy, daddy...but still no mummy. He knows that I am mummy, as when you ask him he will point to me and he also does this funny thing where he will touch his or my chest and say "nyaa" which I'm guessing has something to do with my boobs and therefore his version of mummy (as of course I was only ever seen as the milk machine...) He knows and says pretty much all the body parts to head, shoulders, knees and toes, just the shoulders and knees to go! He likes to point out facial features the most, poking us in the eye and tugging on our ears and sticking out his tongue!

Anyway, so that's all very exciting! He seems to like mainly naming things at the moment, and we have great fun pointing out loads of different objects and naming them or making noises for them. But probably my favourite thing at the moment is when we are stopped at traffic lights he will shout from the back seat "ready....go!" (ready sounds a lot like daddy though) It's so funny, and when followed by a round about he goes "weeeeeeeeeeee"

Theo is still really outgoing and will say hello and bye to everyone. People in the street, in shops, people who come to the door, friends, strangers, adults, children; everyone gets one! Theo is also very affectionate, a little too much sometimes as he tries to cuddle everyone if he gets the chance. The other day we went to a pub for lunch, and there was another little boy a few months younger, so we introduced them and within about 30 seconds Theo was hugging him and gave him a big old kiss on the lips...not shy at all!

That leads me nicely onto the other end of the spectrum which is the problems we were having with Theo hitting other children when playing. Which thankfully (touch wood) seems to be getting better. We went to a playgroup the other day and I think, we managed a whole session without one hit, unless he got a few sneaky ones in when I wasn't watching. But now if he does do it, or do something else a little naughty he will instantly hold out his arms for a cuddle and go "awww". Which to me is his way of saying sorry. When we are out I will always take him to the side and tell him that it's not nice to hit, and that it's a not very nice thing to do and that we need to say sorry. So I think it's working...

I'm not sure whether it's because I've stopped nursing him or what, but Theo also seems to want a lot more physical attention from us. He wants to have hugs all the time (and they really are the best, proper arms wrapped round your neck hugs!) He will come and park himself down on my lap and snuggle in for a proper cuddle, which I love. I have to say I was worried that I would lose out on the one on one close time I had with Theo when I stopped feeding, but I don't think we have. Plus the cuddles are a little nicer than him climbing on me, pulling up my top and grabbing at my boob and me having to lie there a little trapped!

Theo is still extremely active, he runs everywhere we go, wants to daringly climb everything and is even started to jump! He still dances all the time too, and it's just the best! (here are a few gifs I made of him, a little annoying sorry!)


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2QVPg_ on Make A Gif, Animated Gifs


Theo still gets a little clingy at time, especially when we are at home. Actually only when we are at home. If I try and leave the room to go to the toilet then he will stand at the gate and wail until I return. He will happily play with his train set for a long time, but as long as I'm in the room with him. I am trying to be a little bit more inventive at home and am going to start doing more activities with him, hands on, and exploratory  play, so if anyone has any good, cheap and easy ideas send them my way (or websites for that matter!) The other morning I quickly made up a little game, where I filled tupperware boxes with different objects, such a pebbles, macaroni, crayons and thread (the only things I could find around the house!). First we shook them and listened to the different sounds, then opened them to look and feel the objects, then we tried to fit the lids back on but the game ended with Theo trying to put the bits of macaroni in the middle of the thread spools, which entertained him for a good ten minutes..wish I'd just done that from the start!

In terms of eating Theo still goes very up and down. Some days and weeks he will eat three square meals, by himself. No me trying to shove food in his mouth and pleading with him to at least try his food. Then some days he just point blank refuses to try things, things I know he likes! We have a little doll who we like to bring out at these times so he can feed her some first, then usually he takes a little nibble for himself. Sometimes we resorted to letting him eat on the sofa, just so I know he has a full belly before going to bed, not great, but it works...He is still really good at self- feeding a can use a fork and spoon pretty well, it always amazes me when he polishes off a whole bowl of porridge by himself!


In terms of current obsessions it's still very much trains, planes, cars and tractors, oh an naa-niis (his version of nee-naw ie emergency vehicles) He always points to the sky and does his plane impression, and likes to point out every car, "oh look - car" and ha started to ask us to put Thomas on the telly...uh oh! He stands there and points at the boxset and nods his head over and over saying "yeh, yeh". He does this every time he wants something, just yeh, yeh, yeh!

Oh dear I still haven't gotten to sleep! I hope you're all still hanging in there, I'll try and speed things along! But it's going well, sometimes he doesn't sleep completley 'through' and has a little wake up about about 3-4, but can usually be settled back pretty quickly. On a good night he will sleep from about 7.30-8pm til 6-6.30am, then with a little cuddling and snoozing in bed he can be persuaded to stay in bed until about 7. But usually he is up from about 6, where I go in and we read a little story and I set up his train set and doze in his bed whilst he plays. I think we have done quite well with the whole sleeping thing (finally) and haven't had too much trouble with the transition to the bigger bed. But I think I will go into more detail at a later date with that one!

But I think I'll leave it there! We're having so much fun at the moment, but I am well and truly knackered at the end of the day...so on that note, the sofa is calling me!

oh and I know I mentioned it before, and I promise I won't do it often, but we would be ever so grateful if you took a minute to give us a little vote on top baby blogs, by clicking on the icon to the right! Thanks!!