A year ago

So on a more positive note, as that's what we're trying to be, I'm glad to be able to celebrate our first wedding anniversary this weekend. Whilst technically our actual anniversary is tomorrow, I'm reminded that a year ago on a Saturday morning we were busying ourselves getting ready to meet and be married. 

Waking up at 5am I started going over and over all the things I needed to remember for the day, and finally by 6am deciding that it was a reasonable time to get up, my maid of honour and I started to get ready. Too excited and nervous for breakfast we awaited to arrival of my sisters and for the chaos of dressing to begin. Then as we were ready to leave all the emotion, nerves and tension of the planning and waiting caught up on me and the tears arrived. They didn't stop as my parents greeted us, and as we sipped prosecco and finally walked to the venue. I gave details to the registrar in a blur, handing over our music and tried to take deep breathes as the doors were opened and the room full of our friends and family came into view. I blubbed my way in, and finally joined Rob, waiting for me. 

The rest, the rest was amazing. I know it's cliche and cheesy, but it really was one of the best days of my life, for a multitude of reasons. I'm sad that we don't get to do it all again this year, but I'm happy that we can relive it through this amazing video, captured by my truly talented cousin and gifted to us. I can't thank her enough, or in fact anyone who put in so much effort to make our day as special as it was. Thinking of you all! 

Abigail and Robert from Grace Pluckrose-Oliver on Vimeo.

If there's just one tiny thing, just one thing I could change about the day, it would be that we held Theo's hand and walked out together. The poor boy was suffering with a cold, and we were all a little overwhelmed, and everything happened so fast, but I'm glad we finally scooped him up though for leaving the registry and being showered in confetti. 

Music by Fionn Regan, For a Nightengale

A year ago

So on a more positive note, as that's what we're trying to be, I'm glad to be able to celebrate our first wedding anniversary this weekend. Whilst technically our actual anniversary is tomorrow, I'm reminded that a year ago on a Saturday morning we were busying ourselves getting ready to meet and be married. 

Waking up at 5am I started going over and over all the things I needed to remember for the day, and finally by 6am deciding that it was a reasonable time to get up, my maid of honour and I started to get ready. Too excited and nervous for breakfast we awaited to arrival of my sisters and for the chaos of dressing to begin. Then as we were ready to leave all the emotion, nerves and tension of the planning and waiting caught up on me and the tears arrived. They didn't stop as my parents greeted us, and as we sipped prosecco and finally walked to the venue. I gave details to the registrar in a blur, handing over our music and tried to take deep breathes as the doors were opened and the room full of our friends and family came into view. I blubbed my way in, and finally joined Rob, waiting for me. 

The rest, the rest was amazing. I know it's cliche and cheesy, but it really was one of the best days of my life, for a multitude of reasons. I'm sad that we don't get to do it all again this year, but I'm happy that we can relive it through this amazing video, captured by my truly talented cousin and gifted to us. I can't thank her enough, or in fact anyone who put in so much effort to make our day as special as it was. Thinking of you all! 

Abigail and Robert from Grace Pluckrose-Oliver on Vimeo.

If there's just one tiny thing, just one thing I could change about the day, it would be that we held Theo's hand and walked out together. The poor boy was suffering with a cold, and we were all a little overwhelmed, and everything happened so fast, but I'm glad we finally scooped him up though for leaving the registry and being showered in confetti. 

Music by Fionn Regan, For a Nightengale

the wedding part three




So here we are, nearly coming up to 6 months since the wedding! It still feels like it was almost yesterday, but yet memories are fading and I just want to relive it all over again! (You can find part one and part two here)

So the reception...this post has lots of photographs in it beware!



When we arrived on the bus we were greeted by a few more guests who came to enjoy the rest of the day with us and as we stepped off the bus we were showered in dried lavender and rose petals, which although smelt and looked lovely it did find it's way into everywhere! We greeted everyone and had drinks outside, I think we probably intended to take a few more photograph of just Rob and I, but we were so overwhelmed and excited to see everyone that we just didn't seem to get the chance.

Soon after we arrived we went into the hall accompanied by amazing music from a gramophone, and everyone found their seats. We decided against a traditional table plan, and just grouped people together onto different tables and let people choose where they wanted to sit.

The previous evening we'd spent hours transforming the hall, and when we entered again I was amazed at how much we'd achieved and how lovely it really looked. It was better than I'd hoped and planned, and to know how much we'd all put into it really made me feel so proud.


We spent months collecting china cups and plates, table cloths, cake stands and hand sewing napkins. Our wedding favours were bags of traditional sweets and a packet of wildflower seeds all tied together with name tags for the seating plan. I attached doilies to the backs of the chairs to make them look a bit prettier and finally I found the most perfect florist, who completed the look and by far exceeded my expectations! I think every single person commented on how beautiful the flowers were, and to know that they are locally grown and sourced made it even better.

We then settled in for food, which of course had to be provided by our favourite place to eat in Bristol, The Burger Joint. It was perfect! There was no table service or three courses, just good old burgers, and the best ones at that! We had kegs of locally brewed real ale and freshly brewed tea and coffee for after. We had speeches and toasts and drank more wine!

We then headed out into the courtyard for more drinks and photos whilst the hall was yet again being transformed for the evening reception!


More guests arrived in the evening and it was time to cut the cake. Instead of just one big cake, we deiced to have have lots of cakes, lots of big cakes. And cupcakes and shortbread and sweets...

My sister and good friend Claire worked so hard to bake and produce the most amazing array of treats, which I'm sad to say got pretty decimated leaving us with little leftovers! If my memory serves me we had a lavender cake as our main cake, a giant chocolate fudge cake, coffee and walnut, carrot cake, banoffee cupcakes, bakewell cupcakes, lemon and poppyseed cupcakes and chocolate shortbread! So good!

My wonderful cousin and uncle took to the stage to sing a few songs for us, which was very special! We then had our first dance and spent the rest of the evening dancing, drinking and taking polaroid photos! I changed into my special dancing shoes, my sparkly jellies! For the evening we asked our guests to bring a dish to share, and we were amazed by the range and amount of food people brought! My dad even set up a fresh crepe making station, which I regret that I didn't try one, yet another reason I want to do it all over again!

To say it was the best day of my life is an understatement! I mean how could having all your favourite people in the world (bar a few missing!) in the same room, with good food, cake, music and drink not be?! Oh yeh and obviously the whole getting married part, that was good!

But it was such an amazing day because of the sheer amount of effort and kindness put in by so many people. I can't begin to express our gratitude to all those involved, and who gave their time and resources, you know who you are!

And a massive thanks to Borja Algarra for the photography! 

the wedding part three




So here we are, nearly coming up to 6 months since the wedding! It still feels like it was almost yesterday, but yet memories are fading and I just want to relive it all over again! (You can find part one and part two here)

So the reception...this post has lots of photographs in it beware!



When we arrived on the bus we were greeted by a few more guests who came to enjoy the rest of the day with us and as we stepped off the bus we were showered in dried lavender and rose petals, which although smelt and looked lovely it did find it's way into everywhere! We greeted everyone and had drinks outside, I think we probably intended to take a few more photograph of just Rob and I, but we were so overwhelmed and excited to see everyone that we just didn't seem to get the chance.

Soon after we arrived we went into the hall accompanied by amazing music from a gramophone, and everyone found their seats. We decided against a traditional table plan, and just grouped people together onto different tables and let people choose where they wanted to sit.

The previous evening we'd spent hours transforming the hall, and when we entered again I was amazed at how much we'd achieved and how lovely it really looked. It was better than I'd hoped and planned, and to know how much we'd all put into it really made me feel so proud.


We spent months collecting china cups and plates, table cloths, cake stands and hand sewing napkins. Our wedding favours were bags of traditional sweets and a packet of wildflower seeds all tied together with name tags for the seating plan. I attached doilies to the backs of the chairs to make them look a bit prettier and finally I found the most perfect florist, who completed the look and by far exceeded my expectations! I think every single person commented on how beautiful the flowers were, and to know that they are locally grown and sourced made it even better.

We then settled in for food, which of course had to be provided by our favourite place to eat in Bristol, The Burger Joint. It was perfect! There was no table service or three courses, just good old burgers, and the best ones at that! We had kegs of locally brewed real ale and freshly brewed tea and coffee for after. We had speeches and toasts and drank more wine!

We then headed out into the courtyard for more drinks and photos whilst the hall was yet again being transformed for the evening reception!


More guests arrived in the evening and it was time to cut the cake. Instead of just one big cake, we deiced to have have lots of cakes, lots of big cakes. And cupcakes and shortbread and sweets...

My sister and good friend Claire worked so hard to bake and produce the most amazing array of treats, which I'm sad to say got pretty decimated leaving us with little leftovers! If my memory serves me we had a lavender cake as our main cake, a giant chocolate fudge cake, coffee and walnut, carrot cake, banoffee cupcakes, bakewell cupcakes, lemon and poppyseed cupcakes and chocolate shortbread! So good!

My wonderful cousin and uncle took to the stage to sing a few songs for us, which was very special! We then had our first dance and spent the rest of the evening dancing, drinking and taking polaroid photos! I changed into my special dancing shoes, my sparkly jellies! For the evening we asked our guests to bring a dish to share, and we were amazed by the range and amount of food people brought! My dad even set up a fresh crepe making station, which I regret that I didn't try one, yet another reason I want to do it all over again!

To say it was the best day of my life is an understatement! I mean how could having all your favourite people in the world (bar a few missing!) in the same room, with good food, cake, music and drink not be?! Oh yeh and obviously the whole getting married part, that was good!

But it was such an amazing day because of the sheer amount of effort and kindness put in by so many people. I can't begin to express our gratitude to all those involved, and who gave their time and resources, you know who you are!

And a massive thanks to Borja Algarra for the photography! 

the wedding part two


After the ceremony I felt all the nerves and fear lift from me, and finally it was time to enjoy ourselves! We waited for everyone to file out of the registry office, saying our hellos and thank yous. I was pretty overwhelmed that most of our favourite people were all in the same place, and had all come to celebrate with us!

We waited at the top of the steps stopping for a little longer than anticipated as a little person had to go to the toilet! When finished he wondered out looking slightly bewildered at all the people before Rob scooped him up and we walked out together, as a family. We were showered with confetti and glitter (perhaps a bad idea in hindsight as it went and got stuck EVERYWHERE!)

Soon it was time for our transport to the reception to arrive. We wanted a special way to be able to travel and all stay together, rather than split up into separate groups and meet up there later, so we decided to hire a bus. A rather special vintage Bristol Lodekka Bus.

We decided to take a little tour of Bristol on the bus, taking in the sights along the docks, along the Gorge and under the Suspension Bridge and up onto the downs where we stopped to take in the view at the looking point. The sun magically appeared just as we alighted and we spotted an ice cream van which was perfectly placed for a quick wedding 99!



After our little ice cream stop we had a big group photo, before heading back on the bus to carry on our little tour. We travelled down Whiteladies, around the triangle, down Park Street, through Stokes Croft up Gloucester Road and finally reached our destination. I loved the bus, I loved travelling all together through our city, feeling a little bit special watching people gaze up and occasionally wave and Theo still talks to this day about the 'Big Green Bus'!

We finally arrived at our reception where more of our friends and family joined us! 

the wedding part two


After the ceremony I felt all the nerves and fear lift from me, and finally it was time to enjoy ourselves! We waited for everyone to file out of the registry office, saying our hellos and thank yous. I was pretty overwhelmed that most of our favourite people were all in the same place, and had all come to celebrate with us!

We waited at the top of the steps stopping for a little longer than anticipated as a little person had to go to the toilet! When finished he wondered out looking slightly bewildered at all the people before Rob scooped him up and we walked out together, as a family. We were showered with confetti and glitter (perhaps a bad idea in hindsight as it went and got stuck EVERYWHERE!)

Soon it was time for our transport to the reception to arrive. We wanted a special way to be able to travel and all stay together, rather than split up into separate groups and meet up there later, so we decided to hire a bus. A rather special vintage Bristol Lodekka Bus.

We decided to take a little tour of Bristol on the bus, taking in the sights along the docks, along the Gorge and under the Suspension Bridge and up onto the downs where we stopped to take in the view at the looking point. The sun magically appeared just as we alighted and we spotted an ice cream van which was perfectly placed for a quick wedding 99!



After our little ice cream stop we had a big group photo, before heading back on the bus to carry on our little tour. We travelled down Whiteladies, around the triangle, down Park Street, through Stokes Croft up Gloucester Road and finally reached our destination. I loved the bus, I loved travelling all together through our city, feeling a little bit special watching people gaze up and occasionally wave and Theo still talks to this day about the 'Big Green Bus'!

We finally arrived at our reception where more of our friends and family joined us! 

the wedding part one



I finally thought it was about time I got my act together and shared some photos from our wedding day. It seems like such a long time ago, and I wish it could happen al over again!

The day before the wedding we spent rushing around, getting a makeover at Mac with my sisters, preparing and making all the programmes and favour bags and generally making my house look like a bomb site! We then spent the afternoon and evening before the wedding setting up and decorating the hall for the reception. I barely saw Rob or Theo, probably had a few stressful moments, but above all I can't believe how quickly it all came together thanks to the amazing help of our friends and family! I wish I had made a time lapse film or something of the hall transforming because the difference a few hours work made was simply amazing! It's strange to see something that you have been planning for months and the picture in your head being made into a reality.

After we finished setting up the hall me and my dear friend Sarah (and my maid of honour) took a bus into town to our hotel, before heading out for a late dinner and some gin and tonics to calm our nerves in this amazing bar a few doors down. We spent the evening talking about the day and where we are in our lives before forcing ourselves to go to bed to get some rest. I woke up at about 5am with my mind whizzing of all the things that still needed doing, but mainly just very very nervous about the day ahead.

My sisters then arrived in the morning to help us get ready, we did our own hair and make-up, and sent out the boys to get breakfast and more importantly some bubbly! Our amazing florist delivered our beautiful hair pieces, bouquets and posies. (The flowers were beyond perfect, more than I'd hoped for, but more to come on that later!) My dress belongs to Rob's Grandmas, from the late 50's and was just the most beautiful and perfect dress for me. I love that it holds stories and has seen two wedding days before my own, and hopefully it can continue to be passed down.

I didn't anticipate feeling as nervous and over whelmed as I did. I spent the morning fighting back tears, welling up and not really knowing what to do with myself. It all happens in such a daze and I don't really think the enormity of the day had fully sunk in. I was excited to see Rob and all of our guests, but I think it all just overwhelmed me and I finally shed a few tears when we met my dad and returned to the bar for some more pre-wedding Prosecco. We walked round the corner to the registry office dodging the rain and puddles before heading inside, and the rest well you know how it goes. It was teary and emotional, but just seeing Rob waiting for me calmed my nerves. Knowing its someone you know so well waiting for you, saying those vows to each other and really believing in them. Seeing your best friend and companion, knowing they are feeling as nervous as you, but as soon as you take their hand you know it's going to be alright.

Then Theo joined us, jumping into my arms for a cuddle. He followed us out of the room and it all felt real. Walking out together as a family and finally being able to relax was perfect!

Thank you to my lovely and talented brother in law Borja Algarra for capturing the day for us! 

the wedding part one



I finally thought it was about time I got my act together and shared some photos from our wedding day. It seems like such a long time ago, and I wish it could happen al over again!

The day before the wedding we spent rushing around, getting a makeover at Mac with my sisters, preparing and making all the programmes and favour bags and generally making my house look like a bomb site! We then spent the afternoon and evening before the wedding setting up and decorating the hall for the reception. I barely saw Rob or Theo, probably had a few stressful moments, but above all I can't believe how quickly it all came together thanks to the amazing help of our friends and family! I wish I had made a time lapse film or something of the hall transforming because the difference a few hours work made was simply amazing! It's strange to see something that you have been planning for months and the picture in your head being made into a reality.

After we finished setting up the hall me and my dear friend Sarah (and my maid of honour) took a bus into town to our hotel, before heading out for a late dinner and some gin and tonics to calm our nerves in this amazing bar a few doors down. We spent the evening talking about the day and where we are in our lives before forcing ourselves to go to bed to get some rest. I woke up at about 5am with my mind whizzing of all the things that still needed doing, but mainly just very very nervous about the day ahead.

My sisters then arrived in the morning to help us get ready, we did our own hair and make-up, and sent out the boys to get breakfast and more importantly some bubbly! Our amazing florist delivered our beautiful hair pieces, bouquets and posies. (The flowers were beyond perfect, more than I'd hoped for, but more to come on that later!) My dress belongs to Rob's Grandmas, from the late 50's and was just the most beautiful and perfect dress for me. I love that it holds stories and has seen two wedding days before my own, and hopefully it can continue to be passed down.

I didn't anticipate feeling as nervous and over whelmed as I did. I spent the morning fighting back tears, welling up and not really knowing what to do with myself. It all happens in such a daze and I don't really think the enormity of the day had fully sunk in. I was excited to see Rob and all of our guests, but I think it all just overwhelmed me and I finally shed a few tears when we met my dad and returned to the bar for some more pre-wedding Prosecco. We walked round the corner to the registry office dodging the rain and puddles before heading inside, and the rest well you know how it goes. It was teary and emotional, but just seeing Rob waiting for me calmed my nerves. Knowing its someone you know so well waiting for you, saying those vows to each other and really believing in them. Seeing your best friend and companion, knowing they are feeling as nervous as you, but as soon as you take their hand you know it's going to be alright.

Then Theo joined us, jumping into my arms for a cuddle. He followed us out of the room and it all felt real. Walking out together as a family and finally being able to relax was perfect!

Thank you to my lovely and talented brother in law Borja Algarra for capturing the day for us! 

sea of love








Happy New Year everyone! I thought I would start this year off with some good songs to help you get through the rest of new years day.

I thought I would share the selection of songs we played at our wedding (not the disco because that would take too long, and I can't even remember what was played, except some Beyonce and ending with a Journey sing along, naturally)

We picked a selection of songs that we love, that remind of us certain times or that the lyrics mean something to us. I find myself wanting to hear them over and over again and they do make me very happy!

Firstly the song I walked into the registry office to:

Cat Power, Sea of Love



Then as we signed the register and walked out these two songs played:

Bright Eyes, First day of my life



Cinematic Orchestra, To build a home



(I know this is a long one, but it's so worth watching/listening all the way through, such a beautiful song)

 Later after a quick shoe change (my feet were aching by this point!) into some very amazing and very comfy gold sparkly jellies c/o the wonderful Sun Jellies we started our first dance, to the very beautiful "For a Nightingale" by Fionn Regan.



Such beautiful songs and memories! Happy 2014!



Thank you so much Sun Jellies for letting me feature your beautiful shoes! I can't wait until warmer weather to bust these babies out again!

sea of love








Happy New Year everyone! I thought I would start this year off with some good songs to help you get through the rest of new years day.

I thought I would share the selection of songs we played at our wedding (not the disco because that would take too long, and I can't even remember what was played, except some Beyonce and ending with a Journey sing along, naturally)

We picked a selection of songs that we love, that remind of us certain times or that the lyrics mean something to us. I find myself wanting to hear them over and over again and they do make me very happy!

Firstly the song I walked into the registry office to:

Cat Power, Sea of Love



Then as we signed the register and walked out these two songs played:

Bright Eyes, First day of my life



Cinematic Orchestra, To build a home



(I know this is a long one, but it's so worth watching/listening all the way through, such a beautiful song)

 Later after a quick shoe change (my feet were aching by this point!) into some very amazing and very comfy gold sparkly jellies c/o the wonderful Sun Jellies we started our first dance, to the very beautiful "For a Nightingale" by Fionn Regan.



Such beautiful songs and memories! Happy 2014!



Thank you so much Sun Jellies for letting me feature your beautiful shoes! I can't wait until warmer weather to bust these babies out again!

all that glitters

So I have become slightly obsessed with all things glittery and glitzy recently. Well thats a little bit of a lie, I have always been a little bit in love with the glitz and went through a stage of finding the most outrageous sequinned, jewelled and beaded blinging 80's tops and jackets back when I was in college (and back when there were no such things as 'vintage' sections in charity shops!) I wonder what has
become of my collection actually?

Anyway, already I'm getting sidetracked by glitter...I recently started a little pinterest board to collect all my glitter loves and I thought now would be the perfect time to share a little glitter crafting with you.

When I was searching for shoes for the wedding I couldn't really find anything that was perfect. I wanted something classic and vintage styled, but with a little bit of character and not too high or strappy. So after searching high and low in the end I decided that customising would be the best bet. I found a lovely pair of shoes in good old M&S which seemed to fit the bill, and for a bargain of £20 too. I then bought a few supplies (or raided Theo's craft box) such as PVA glue and some gold glitter. I think I had seen something similar in Topshop, but they were all too high and too expensive.

So here is my simple step by step guide of how to add a little glitz to some shoes, which would be great for the party season too!

You will need:

A pair of shoes of your choice
PVA Glue
Loose glitter (large particles)
Spray adhesive or varnish
Small paintbrush


NB It is advisable to protect the rest of the fabric of the shoe when glueing and especially when spraying. Always spray in a well ventilated (preferably outside) area and leave to dry well before touching or wearing. It's worth giving them a final touch up for any missed bits, and shake off any excess glitter before finally spraying with varnish/adhesive. A damp sponge can be used to remove any glitter from unwanted areas. You can obviously paint whichever areas you wish, be it heel, toe or just the underside, my shoes obviously had a area which was already different from the main fabric of the shoe which made making the shoes match easier.

I was really happy with the way they turned out and I'm pleased to say that they survived being worn all day and I got lots of compliments!


all that glitters

So I have become slightly obsessed with all things glittery and glitzy recently. Well thats a little bit of a lie, I have always been a little bit in love with the glitz and went through a stage of finding the most outrageous sequinned, jewelled and beaded blinging 80's tops and jackets back when I was in college (and back when there were no such things as 'vintage' sections in charity shops!) I wonder what has
become of my collection actually?

Anyway, already I'm getting sidetracked by glitter...I recently started a little pinterest board to collect all my glitter loves and I thought now would be the perfect time to share a little glitter crafting with you.

When I was searching for shoes for the wedding I couldn't really find anything that was perfect. I wanted something classic and vintage styled, but with a little bit of character and not too high or strappy. So after searching high and low in the end I decided that customising would be the best bet. I found a lovely pair of shoes in good old M&S which seemed to fit the bill, and for a bargain of £20 too. I then bought a few supplies (or raided Theo's craft box) such as PVA glue and some gold glitter. I think I had seen something similar in Topshop, but they were all too high and too expensive.

So here is my simple step by step guide of how to add a little glitz to some shoes, which would be great for the party season too!

You will need:

A pair of shoes of your choice
PVA Glue
Loose glitter (large particles)
Spray adhesive or varnish
Small paintbrush


NB It is advisable to protect the rest of the fabric of the shoe when glueing and especially when spraying. Always spray in a well ventilated (preferably outside) area and leave to dry well before touching or wearing. It's worth giving them a final touch up for any missed bits, and shake off any excess glitter before finally spraying with varnish/adhesive. A damp sponge can be used to remove any glitter from unwanted areas. You can obviously paint whichever areas you wish, be it heel, toe or just the underside, my shoes obviously had a area which was already different from the main fabric of the shoe which made making the shoes match easier.

I was really happy with the way they turned out and I'm pleased to say that they survived being worn all day and I got lots of compliments!


what's in a name?



So now that the wedding is over and we're getting back to our normal routine it's time to catch up on all the things that have been pushed to the side (including this little blog!) and I need to start organising all the other things that crop up when you get married, like all the boring legal stuff. It still feels a little weird to call Rob my husband, and I haven't even really got the the part where I'm called Mrs!

It took me a while to decide what my name would become, and in fact I'm not even sure if it has legally changed...how do you do all of that stuff?! When Theo was born, maybe because we weren't married we gave him both of our last names. I would like to have the same name as my son, and I am also keen to keep my surname seeing as that I only have sisters, and my cousins are both girls as well, so if in theory we all got married and changed our names, then our family name would end. So it sort of makes sense to take the same last name as Theo. But so far nothing has been changed...is there some manual somewhere that tells you what and how you have to change your name once you become married? How do people know all about this sort of thing because we certainly don't!

Then there's all the other legal things to think about, changing my name on my passport, drivers licence, bank, bills even my email address? Do people actually bother with that? Then there's other grown up things to think of, such as wills and life insurance etc. It's all things that I feel I'm too young to think about, and considering the fact we don't own a house there's not much put in a will. But it would be reassuring to know that we had some sort of plan mapped out if (can't bear to think about) something ever happened to either of us just to know that Theo would be looked after properly. Sorry that's all a bit morbid isn't it, but I guess it's worthwhile to think about.

Any tips on what I need to do now that I'm a real grown up?!

what's in a name?



So now that the wedding is over and we're getting back to our normal routine it's time to catch up on all the things that have been pushed to the side (including this little blog!) and I need to start organising all the other things that crop up when you get married, like all the boring legal stuff. It still feels a little weird to call Rob my husband, and I haven't even really got the the part where I'm called Mrs!

It took me a while to decide what my name would become, and in fact I'm not even sure if it has legally changed...how do you do all of that stuff?! When Theo was born, maybe because we weren't married we gave him both of our last names. I would like to have the same name as my son, and I am also keen to keep my surname seeing as that I only have sisters, and my cousins are both girls as well, so if in theory we all got married and changed our names, then our family name would end. So it sort of makes sense to take the same last name as Theo. But so far nothing has been changed...is there some manual somewhere that tells you what and how you have to change your name once you become married? How do people know all about this sort of thing because we certainly don't!

Then there's all the other legal things to think about, changing my name on my passport, drivers licence, bank, bills even my email address? Do people actually bother with that? Then there's other grown up things to think of, such as wills and life insurance etc. It's all things that I feel I'm too young to think about, and considering the fact we don't own a house there's not much put in a will. But it would be reassuring to know that we had some sort of plan mapped out if (can't bear to think about) something ever happened to either of us just to know that Theo would be looked after properly. Sorry that's all a bit morbid isn't it, but I guess it's worthwhile to think about.

Any tips on what I need to do now that I'm a real grown up?!

I bet you look good on the dance-floor...

I have yet to share much about our wedding on here, we're waiting on the official photos back and can't wait to see them, but for now we have these beauties to keep us going. We borrowed a fuji instant camera, purchased film and left it near the guestbook with instructions to take the photo, stick it in the book and write a comment. That didn't actually happen, the photos instead got stuck in the beautiful willow heart my sister made and the camera made its way onto the dance floor...and for that I'm very glad! These photos are amazing, hilarious, sweet and just genius. They are some of my favourite photos of friends and family I have ever seen and I think they captured the evenings revelries perfectly!

love you all! 

I bet you look good on the dance-floor...

I have yet to share much about our wedding on here, we're waiting on the official photos back and can't wait to see them, but for now we have these beauties to keep us going. We borrowed a fuji instant camera, purchased film and left it near the guestbook with instructions to take the photo, stick it in the book and write a comment. That didn't actually happen, the photos instead got stuck in the beautiful willow heart my sister made and the camera made its way onto the dance floor...and for that I'm very glad! These photos are amazing, hilarious, sweet and just genius. They are some of my favourite photos of friends and family I have ever seen and I think they captured the evenings revelries perfectly!

love you all! 

thirty-nine / fifty-two



So there you have it, we are married! We had such an unbelievably amazing weekend sharing the day with our family and friends. We're off on our honeymoon today, so it will be quiet around here again for a week or so but I can't wait to get back and share pictures and stories with you!

Obviously I didn't take these photos, so I would like to thank the very talented Borja Algarra for capturing our day! 

thirty-nine / fifty-two



So there you have it, we are married! We had such an unbelievably amazing weekend sharing the day with our family and friends. We're off on our honeymoon today, so it will be quiet around here again for a week or so but I can't wait to get back and share pictures and stories with you!

Obviously I didn't take these photos, so I would like to thank the very talented Borja Algarra for capturing our day! 

you've got the love part five

Yikes so it's only a few days to the wedding, but there's just one time to fit in one more story! I'm very excited to introduce the lovely Jordan from a great new to me blog Berlin By the Bay . Thanks for much for sharing your beautiful wedding, and some very good advice!

Today marks three wonderful (and crazy) years of marriage to my husband, Ryan.  I am so very pleased to be celebrating our anniversary by posting on Abigail's blog today.  This opportunity has allowed me to reflect upon our memorable wedding day as well as the past three years of marriage.


Our wedding was truly one of perfection. Many will warn you that things will go wrong on the big day, and to just move forward. But I can honestly say that not one thing went awry the day we got married, and I feel incredibly fortunate for this!  Leading up to the big day, I spent many an hour making invites, designing the decor, crafting napkins, and planting succulents.  However, the final few days before the wedding, and especially the day of, those closest to me really worked miracles and made my vision a reality. It was truly my friends and family whom I have to thank for such a flawless wedding.



Here are a few small tidbits of advice I have to share based on my own personal experience as a bride and a newlywed:  
First off, as the bride-to-be, I learned never get married in the middle of a desert in September.  Yes, the hotels will tell you that it cools off by September and it will be the perfect temperature.  But let me tell you- it will not!  It will be sweltering hot, and most likely, you’ll be in a full length, silk gown, and you’ll be sweating buckets.  We got married in Palm Springs in late September, and it was nearly 120 degrees.  My makeup melted right off my face (ok, come to think of it, maybe this was the one thing that did go wrong on our wedding day). DON’T DO IT!!.
Secondly, remember to eat.  I swear every former bride, as well as your mother and friends, will give you this piece of advice. And for one reason or another, most of us will choose to ignore it (myself included). My husband and I only took one quick moment to shovel a taco down our throats, and then stupidly proceeded to wolf down shots of tequila.  It didn’t take long to feel pretty knackered in 100+ degree heat with little food in our systems! Take my word for it,  it is no fun waking up with a hangover the morning after your wedding.
Consider that two pieces of advice: eat and don’t drink too much alcohol.
Thirdly, hire a videographer.  We didn’t want to add another expense to the already tight budget, and I regret it still to this day. It is extremely hard to stay in the moment, but by having a video you can recall the experience, and or see something you failed to catch at the time. I would love to relive the moment my husband said his vows to me, or watch us walking hand in hand down the aisle as husband and wife for the first time. Your wedding day will be one big whirlwind, but it will forever be one of the most memorable days of your life. Believe me, you will want it captured on film.
Lastly, have the wedding of your dreams- without breaking the bank.  Make certain the wedding is a reflection of both of you as a couple.  Don’t have a ceremony that will please your grandmother if it is not your style;  or one where you invite every long lost relative for the sake of your mother- especially if you are paying for it!  Have a wedding that pleases you and your husband only, and STAY within your means.



Now, onto my advice as a newlywed (yes, I still consider us newlyweds even after three years of marriage).
My most important piece of advice is to show love for one another on a daily basis.  This can range from the most simple acts of love: such as leaving a post it note on the mirror saying, “I adore you,” to the more grand gesture (think John Cusack’s ghetto blaster moment in Say Anything).  It is far too easy to get caught up in the routine of everyday life, and forget to cherish your partner.   If you can remind your partner just how much they mean to you on a  daily basis, I swear your marriage will last forever.
Secondly, shut off all electronics for at least an hour every evening to enjoy one another’s company.  This piece of advice has recently become a new rule in our household, and let me tell you it is a marriage saver!  Having a husband who works for Apple, we tend to be electronically obsessed in our house, and have all devices running simultaneously throughout the day.  We are constantly glued to our phone, iPad, and computer and often go hours in the night without even talking to one another.  Put down your phone and actually converse with one another about your day.
Lastly, be intimate.  Enough said.





Special thanks to Abigail for allowing me to be a part of her series.  I wish you and Rob all the best and a lifetime of love.


Photo Credit: Jared Harrell

you've got the love part five

Yikes so it's only a few days to the wedding, but there's just one time to fit in one more story! I'm very excited to introduce the lovely Jordan from a great new to me blog Berlin By the Bay . Thanks for much for sharing your beautiful wedding, and some very good advice!

Today marks three wonderful (and crazy) years of marriage to my husband, Ryan.  I am so very pleased to be celebrating our anniversary by posting on Abigail's blog today.  This opportunity has allowed me to reflect upon our memorable wedding day as well as the past three years of marriage.


Our wedding was truly one of perfection. Many will warn you that things will go wrong on the big day, and to just move forward. But I can honestly say that not one thing went awry the day we got married, and I feel incredibly fortunate for this!  Leading up to the big day, I spent many an hour making invites, designing the decor, crafting napkins, and planting succulents.  However, the final few days before the wedding, and especially the day of, those closest to me really worked miracles and made my vision a reality. It was truly my friends and family whom I have to thank for such a flawless wedding.



Here are a few small tidbits of advice I have to share based on my own personal experience as a bride and a newlywed:  
First off, as the bride-to-be, I learned never get married in the middle of a desert in September.  Yes, the hotels will tell you that it cools off by September and it will be the perfect temperature.  But let me tell you- it will not!  It will be sweltering hot, and most likely, you’ll be in a full length, silk gown, and you’ll be sweating buckets.  We got married in Palm Springs in late September, and it was nearly 120 degrees.  My makeup melted right off my face (ok, come to think of it, maybe this was the one thing that did go wrong on our wedding day). DON’T DO IT!!.
Secondly, remember to eat.  I swear every former bride, as well as your mother and friends, will give you this piece of advice. And for one reason or another, most of us will choose to ignore it (myself included). My husband and I only took one quick moment to shovel a taco down our throats, and then stupidly proceeded to wolf down shots of tequila.  It didn’t take long to feel pretty knackered in 100+ degree heat with little food in our systems! Take my word for it,  it is no fun waking up with a hangover the morning after your wedding.
Consider that two pieces of advice: eat and don’t drink too much alcohol.
Thirdly, hire a videographer.  We didn’t want to add another expense to the already tight budget, and I regret it still to this day. It is extremely hard to stay in the moment, but by having a video you can recall the experience, and or see something you failed to catch at the time. I would love to relive the moment my husband said his vows to me, or watch us walking hand in hand down the aisle as husband and wife for the first time. Your wedding day will be one big whirlwind, but it will forever be one of the most memorable days of your life. Believe me, you will want it captured on film.
Lastly, have the wedding of your dreams- without breaking the bank.  Make certain the wedding is a reflection of both of you as a couple.  Don’t have a ceremony that will please your grandmother if it is not your style;  or one where you invite every long lost relative for the sake of your mother- especially if you are paying for it!  Have a wedding that pleases you and your husband only, and STAY within your means.



Now, onto my advice as a newlywed (yes, I still consider us newlyweds even after three years of marriage).
My most important piece of advice is to show love for one another on a daily basis.  This can range from the most simple acts of love: such as leaving a post it note on the mirror saying, “I adore you,” to the more grand gesture (think John Cusack’s ghetto blaster moment in Say Anything).  It is far too easy to get caught up in the routine of everyday life, and forget to cherish your partner.   If you can remind your partner just how much they mean to you on a  daily basis, I swear your marriage will last forever.
Secondly, shut off all electronics for at least an hour every evening to enjoy one another’s company.  This piece of advice has recently become a new rule in our household, and let me tell you it is a marriage saver!  Having a husband who works for Apple, we tend to be electronically obsessed in our house, and have all devices running simultaneously throughout the day.  We are constantly glued to our phone, iPad, and computer and often go hours in the night without even talking to one another.  Put down your phone and actually converse with one another about your day.
Lastly, be intimate.  Enough said.





Special thanks to Abigail for allowing me to be a part of her series.  I wish you and Rob all the best and a lifetime of love.


Photo Credit: Jared Harrell